Grandma Chat Space

[Daisy]

Good Saturday morning everyone - how lovely to be greeted by such cheery graphics, Gem and Nanto.

The sun's shining here, so hopefully it will be another nice day, although not quite as warm as it has been.

At the rate it's going, I think we'll still be faffing about with my cousin's house well into the New Year! I really don't want to go through another winter of keeping it heated, aired and looked after when we're so far away.

Gem - I do hope you can see your mum this afternoon. It would be awful if visits were stopped completely.

Lizzie - I'm sorry to hear you had such a bad day yesterday. Keeping track of what you're eating is a good idea and will help to work out what's causing the pain. Take care, and get enough rest - you're such a busy lady. xx

Nanto - enjoy your shopping.

Grauntie - how are you today? I hope you're able to ease off the painkillers a bit. xx

No firm plans for us today, but if DS1 is feeling ok they may come down for lunch tomorrow (while they still can!). He gets tired very easily so it would just be a quick visit, but gets them out of the house for a few hours. I'd better do a bit of housework!!!!

Have a good week-end, ladies.

[Oma]

Good morning ladies ,

Lizzie it wasnt a good day for you was it , i hope you woke this morning more comfy xx

Daisy what a faff on with cousins house it seems as though its gone on forever

Grauntie how you doing this morning ?

Gem fingers crossed your Mum is up to a visit , its all been stopped again here .

Nanto is it just food shopping or something nice slipping in the basket too


Well after 3 very irate and temper throwing phone calls from MIL yesterday , i have had to give in and im going over this morning to Iron and put up these damn Curtains ,
They have been a blooming pain in the backside ,

She wont let Bs sister iron them it has to be me , apparently sil's boyfriend cant put them up as wait for it ...He's Plump ... now tell me why would that stop him putting curtains up and in fact he is of average size

She finally played the suicidal card last night , i wish i wasnt here i feel suicidal no one gives me any help i have to struggle on by my self etc
She has us all running around dangling like puppets but tells everyone we no help .

I said to B if we dont go today we wont hear the last of it , I really am at the end of my tether with her but at the same time she's 86 and B's mother we have to give her that respect its just she makes it so hard .

Well that's my moan for the day i will report back later if im not in a police cell for murder

[Gemini]

Oma, you are a saint and an angel!!!

[Plantaholic]

Goodness me Oma, what a fuss your Mil makes, you are so patient with her although she makes you cross. It is like blackmail.

Daisy, your cousin certainly left you with a headache, hope the sale goes through soon, you have enough to worry about. Hope your DS1 feels like making the journey.

Grauntie, I hope your arm is feeling less painful, as your OH is such a saint looking after you, perhaps you should make it last a bit longer but I think you like to be busy

Lizzie, I think you should talk to your doctor again about the pain you are in.

I hope you are able to see your mum today, Sil's mother's nursing home is still in lockdown after a member of staff tested positive.

I am running late again this morning so I will pop in later.

[Lizzie48]

I am feeling better today, I will see how it goes otherwise phone on Monday.

[Lizzie48]

Oma, just read about your MIL!!! Have you screamed yet??????

[Oma]

Give me strength ,
Went to MIL's B rang to say we were on our way ,
I took my Iron that is one of these tank ones and very heavy to carry as her iron is a lightweight one and i like to use my own .

Walked in and she said what's that ?
My iron i said as i looked around thinking she would have ironing board up ready ,

Oh she says i ironed them last night

I kid you not i could have put my hands around her neck and squeezed the life out of her .

After all the fuss and tears and down right nastiness she had stood and ironed them while she watched TV ,
This is the woman who said she couldnt do them herself they were to big and heavy ,

She said her back was killing so i told her it was her own fault she knew i was going this morning to do them so not to moan to me about how much it hurt ,
I was furious ,
When B rang her this morning saying we were on our way she never mentioned she had ironed them

After i told her off we put the curtains up and she moaned they were still a bit creased and didnt like how they were hanging at the edges ,
I had told her before never to iron the edges but she hadnt listened plus she had ironed a crease right down the middle ,

To be honest i could have taken them down and ironed them again but i was too angry with her .
She knew how angry i was and was very sheepish ,

I also told her not to try the suicide card again as next time i would phone the crisis team at SS and say she needed assessing , she was shocked at that '

She gave us a hug as we were leaving and said thank you , a first for her , B said it was guilt

I do love her but shes hard work

[Glammanana]

Such a lovely warm day today here on The Wirral I am off to the shops this afternoon for a last meetup with my friend Margaret something we had always done on a Saturday with the new regulations M's daughter has advised her to stay home until things get better,so I will just go and get Poppys favourite biscuits etc and come straight home.
I fully expected this 2nd spike after the dine in month in August so many places did not apply the correct rules when in Liverpool we saw tables of 12/15 people dining out and not taking care at all.
Gem's hoping your mums visit goes well I feel so sorry for our relatives in this position not fair at all at their time of life.sending your mum love xx
I am starting to scrape the lounge wall for new paper to go up next week then get started on the kitchen I am having a spring clean in Autumn !!! Colours chosen are lilac's and pale pinks in a geometrical design so fingers crossed.

[Oma]

sounds lovely Glamm , i like both those colours ,
My SIL has a geometric design in her hall its pale pink and rose gold , looks very classy

[Nanto2girls]

Lizzie, pleased to hear you are feeling a bit better today.

Oma, dad is a bit like your Mil. Always says no-one is bothered about them. No-one helps.
Because he is hubby's dad, i just let his moans go over my head.
We went to the supermarket this morning,we were home for 11.30.
Nothing nice slipped into my basket. Just the food shopping.
We did notice,that they have taken all the arrows off the floor,that told you which way to walk round.

Sun is shining and feels warm, going to have a cuppa and cake in the garden soon.

[Plantaholic]

I almost exploded when I started to read your post Oma, I am pleased you told her straight not to try the suicide card again, I hope she got the message that she had behaved very badly indeed.

Glamm, sounds like you are going to be busy decorating.

[Oma]

Plant i have calmed down now but i was mad at her for a good few hours ,
We all do what we can for her but its not appreciated and she does the guilt trip every time ,

I dread when she has the kitchen decorated its only tiny but she has a lot of stuff to move ,

She makes a drama out of everything , so when she started on about it today i told her there is no problem that cant be solved so dont even go there , it just means she will have to wait till we can get over again when the restrictions are lifted ,

The sitting room looks lovely only her new sofas to arrive she should be happy with it , but she will find some fault

B and myself laughed about it tonight but it wasnt funny this morning

[Daisy]

Oma - I was right there with you, ready to throttle your MIL when I was reading your post! But you are brilliant with her and I'm glad you and B can now laugh about things like that. It could easily end up causing friction between the two of you. I know you're not at all like that, but that's what would happen to a lot of couples where a parent is being, shall we say, a little awkward!!! I don't suppose she will now be a reformed character and become a sweet, gentle old lady, but at least you got through to her today. xx

Nanto - you're a patient saint as well, letting your FIL's comments go over your head. Do you think the supermarkets have given up on trying to get people to keep their distance?

Lizzie - have you done anything or eaten differently - I'm wondering if you can pinpoint why you feel better today. It might be an idea to have a check up anyway. But I'm glad you're feeling better. x

Glam - it's such a pity the rise in Covid cases has lead to this again. It's so unfair on the people like you and your friend who have been careful.

Grauntie - I hope your arm's improving.

Plant - I must admit I'll be glad when we and tie everything up with my cousin's house and everything. He was such a kind and gentle man and always very orderly and careful. But it seems the last few years things went badly wrong for him and we could have helped - but he never said and so we didn't know. I still feel so sad about that.

[Oma]

Daisy , im sure he thought he could manage and didnt want to be a bother m he sounds a lovely man
Its a long drive for you and J to do so the quicker its sorted the better ,
Trouble with selling houses where their is a chain is if one link has problems as you know the whole chain is involved .

Gem hope you got to see your Mum today and she was in good spirits ,

Nanto i dont know what they want , My SIL lives across the road from MIL goes in twice a day, MIL moans she's always there but if she didnt go she would moan she wasnt there so how do you win ?
I hope im not like that when or if i get to that age , i hope im grateful for what i have .

Glamm i see your end is going into lockdown too ,
we just getting back to some normality and its happening again , then you have the no mask brigade holding demo's spreading more ,
makes me sad to think they are giving no thought to anyone but themselves .

Sum1 how is your DIL ? i dont suppose her stress levels are any lower if its anything like my DD's

Tonight we had a lot of police activity going down our back road , seemed a awful lot of police cars going down then the helicopter was out .
Turns out the block of flats at the bottom of the estate there was a young man who had been caught cheating and his wife had left him and taken the two children ,
So he had decided to threaten to hang himself out of the 3rd floor window ,

2 police vans 5 police cars and a Ambulance were deployed .
3 hours they were all there , apparently he was drunk not a cry for help just wasting time ,

The mother of a friend of my DD lives across the road and said its all drama with them they always having rows and those poor children are in the middle
She said he had no intentions of harming himself he just wanted his wife back ,
Well he shouldnt have been messing about with another woman then should he .

Talk about wasting resources he should be fined when he sobers up , trouble is they have to respond just in case he did try

[Nanto2girls]

Oma, hope you are sleeping now.
Its the children i feel sorry, with the couple you mentioned in your post.

Just breaking daylight now. Off to get some washing done.