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[Daisy]

Good morning everyone. I'm really sorry if it looks as though I was ignoring you - I posted last night and I don't know what happened to it!

Nanto - a day in the garden sounds perfect - don't overdo it though. xx

Gem - You must be at the end of your tether with everything that's going on, plus the timing when this week should have been happy and exciting. Your OH and DDs are wonderful and knowing how much they care helps a little, I'n sure. I hope your mum did go to bed - I know it's hard trying to keep her in some sort of routine. You really do need more help, but I can imagine it's hard to get. Sending love and hugs. xxx


EDIT (15.30) - Oma - I'm so sorry I didn't see your post - I must have been typing and my post went on to the next screen, so I've only just found it when I couldn't understand later comments. For goodness' sake - stop being superwoman and take more care of yourself. Gentle hugs, love.

[Nanto2girls]

Oma, hope you feel better soon.

Gardening has been postponed until tomorrow.
The sun vanished and we had a few spots of rain.
So, i have dome tomorrows housework today.

[Plantaholic]

Oh dear Oma, that must have frightened you both. I hope your balance is better today.

Gemini, what a trying time for you, missing your lovely holiday and now having the worry of your mother's health. I hope your mother feels better soon and you can have some respite.

I am very late getting going this morning, having breakfast at coffee time. I managed to contact my friend who has recently moved into a Mc&Stone flat, she was very upbeat, they can't mix of course. It was her birthday last week and her local family stood across the road with balloons and sang happy birthday to her as she stood on her balcony. They left her a M&S meal and some bubbly in the store-room of the flats.

[Oma]

I'm fine thank you Plant . I have pushed myself decorating when I wasn't feeling good it's my own fault so I have been banned from doing anything at all today . Frightened the life out of B he said he has never seen someone so white . But I am ok really

[Gemini]

Do rest Oma.
I'm glad your friend is happy Plant, and I am so glad that you are your family have safe distance ways to see each other. Loneliness is a bad thing.

The carer found mum on the floor on the way into the living room Says she is not hurt and had been there about 20 mins, but that wont be accurate. Another carer was on her way help lift her. I made sure carer put the fire on in the living room for her. I will leave them to see to her, then we will go over afterwards.
Poor mum, it must be so hard. She can hardly see and hear, and now can't walk. She's had a long and healthy life all she wants is to go to my dad.

[Oma]

Awww Gem that's so sad . You have to be brave and know she may not have many years left and it sounds like she is tired of this life . So hard for you all cherish what time you have with her . But you know if after all this she is still with you if you can get her into a home she may perk up and keep fighting . Sending you so many hugs my dear friend xxx

[Gemini]

Thank you Oma, I'm struggling, but i know many have similar and worse to cope with, Its just come at such a bad time, for us and mum.When I have messages asking about her from friends at home, and from you and Lizzie, it makes me cry. So kind to think of me xx

[Lizzie48]

Of course we think of you Gem!

[WeeGranny]

Gem, I was so sad to read your posts about your Mum. Nothing I can say or do to make it any easier for you and your family, except that I'm thinking about you and sending you love and strength to get through this difficult time xx

[Daisy]

Gem - I'm so sorry to hear about your mum's latest fall. I know a lot of people are going through a lot of difficult times, but it doesn't make it any easier for you and your family. Sending love xxx

[Mimi]

Oma, what a shock that must have been for you and B .

Gem I am so sorry to read about your mum. My heart goes out to you , it really does.
My dad lost his sight and hearing and when he had a stroke it also stole his mobility , you feel so lost as to know what to do to help don't you . Sending you lots of hugs x

It's a very hard time now for our friends and families isn't it , sending so much love to all those who need it x

[Nanto2girls]

Gem, sorry to hear your Mum had another fall.

[Gemini]

You are so kind, ladies.

Mum loved seeing DD, it really did her good. I did too, but desparately wanted to hug her.
Mum had a nap after she left, and ate most of a baked potato with butter and cheese, which she very much enjoyed.
She didn't go to bed last night. Bed was exactly as I had left it for her to get into, last night's and this morning's tablets still on bedside table.
Tonight OH and I went over and helped her to bed, and will have to every night for now at least. gaWe wheeled her through in the wheelchair commode. Hard enough getting her into that, she could never have walked through.
OH gave room a thorough hoover today.

When we were at home having our tea and putting our feet up before going back, friends called us for a video chat, which was lovely.

[Daisy]

Gem - I'm glad your mum is eating - that's a good sign. I did wonder if she had gone to bed last night. Thank goodness she lives in a bungalow - it would be much more difficult with stairs. Is there any possibility that she could have one of those call alarms where she wears it like a necklace and if she falls or anything pressing the button sets up an alarm call which would then go through to your phone. I don't know much about them, but I remember an elderly neighbour having one, and it gave her family some peace of mind. Nice to have a chat with friends.

Plant - it's nice not having to rush round first thing in a morning! I'm sure you're missing your evening G&T with your GD, but hopefully tomorrow will be warmer and you might be able to sit outside and enjoy it.

[Nana]

Gem, I'm so sorry to hear about your struggle with your mum. It's draining in every sense...mentally, emotionally & physically. Have you got social services involved yet? As Daisy says there's an alarm button that can be worn around the neck. There's also a wrist one.

Re bed time. Mum was offered & accepted a pressure pad for her bed. It was fitted specially & linked up to the same alarm place as the alarm button that she wore around her neck. They work out the person's routine of bedtime, night loo visits etc. If the person's not back to bed, say after 10 mins they speak through a 'box' asking if that person is ok. If they don't get a response they send someone out. There really is a lot of help out there if you know about it.