Gran Chat!

[Daisy]

Plant, I'm so pleased. you have met your newest GGS. Gosh, he sounds like a big boy already. As you say, the medics should perhaps have suggested a CS before mum went into labour. How lovely that the new Dad has got at least 3 months at home getting to know his son and spending time with him. You must be pleased that they live relatively local to you. I hope GD1 and H's colds are soon better.

The toddler is still in hospital, but he's making progress. Having the two dogs together is fine as they are good friends, it's just that I didn't want Missy running and jumping about because she's recovering from surgery.

Oma, oh dear, no wonder you've got a headache after all that drama and coming and going and a difficult journey to the hospital. I hope MIL will use the nebuliser, and your SIL doing MIL's shopping tomorrow will give you and B a break. Sleep well tonight.

I seem to have been doing paper work and other routine stuff most of the day. Even doing the Sainsburys order seemed to take me ages. The weather has been cold but sunny, so I thought I'd take Eva for a long walk this afternoon. We stopped to talk to our next door neighbour (the other side from the toddler's grand parents) and her little puppy, who is very cute. I checked on a friend's house as they are away and then headed to the open Forest. Then the heavens opened. Typical. So I changed my walk to get more protection from trees, but it was too busy to let Eva off - lots of ponies about, traffic and children coming home from school. Still, we had some fresh air and exercise even if we did get rather wet.

OH cooked a very nice dinner - Thai fish cakes with sweet potato chips, cauliflower, French beans and carrots. He's doing very well. For some strange reason we both kept thinking it was Friday today.

[Nanto2girls]

Hoping to catch up with all your posts sometime today.

Off to sort some washing out now.

[Gemini]

Good morning everyone.

Welcome back Nan2, take your time catching up

Oma, I hope your headache went and you feel better this morning. Your MIL is making you ill! I remember feeling the same when my mum was at her most difficult, and I was also juggling a lot of childcare. I really thought the stress would make me go before mum! Take care xx

How lovely that you spent time with the new baby Plant. Have they named him yet?

It sounds as though you and Eva need good rainwear for your walks Daisy!


I had a busy day with the boys. GSs 2 and 3 both found the school pick up very exciting and had a great time having tea and playing together for hours.
GS1 spent the evening with his dad as DD was anxious about him spreading his cold here. Hopefully he will be fine for Sunday.
I had to phone school on the way yesterday to warn them I may be late. In the end I wasn't, but felt happier that they knew I may be. Thank goodness for hands free phones via the car!
There was an accident on the other carriageway, which slowed us all down for a long time, but I didn't know what the massive queues were until we got to it. A car and lorry, ambulance, police and recovery vechicles
Aqua this morning. Little E is due here during the afternoon and staying the night.

[Oma]

Morning ladies
Nanto
Welcome home,

Daisy
Typical you go out in sunshine and the heavens open,
Pleased to hear the baby is improving.

Well last night and today isn't going to plan.
Nurses came out to MIL at 8 with the nebuliser, her oxygen had dropped again so they wanted her to go back in ,
She wasn't having any of it ,
They rang us but no way was she going in and I had no desire to drive back over and argue with her,
So she had to sign a form saying she refused treatment,

Then first thing this morning his sister rang she can't go for mother's shopping she's got a bad back🙄

So rang MIL to see how she is and tell her I have blood tests at 11 but then we would go over get a list and go shopping,
She's insisting on coming with us,
It would be quicker without her , I will see what I think when we get there.
If I think she's not up to it even in a wheelchair she's not going.

I slept badly last night my headache wouldn't shift so I ended up laying on the sofa for a few hours.
I'm shattered but got to get on with it,

B has two brothers and two sisters but none of them can help.
Well one brother hasn't spoken to the family for 30 yrs after a row with FIL
Martin lives 50 minutes away and works,
His older sister fell out of her front door Wednesday ripping the tendons in her ankle and her partner has just had a hip replacement,
His other sister who was supposed to go for shopping said her back is hurting,
This sister lives at the Drs she's a hypocondriac, never known anyone able to get Drs appointments the way she does.

Honestly I could write a book on this family sagas 🤣

[Gemini]

Oma, I think the time for some tactical white lies has come.
I would say the doctors have told you you have to rest, so you will be ordering food shopping online for the foreseeable future. Hers can be delivered to her, or you could take it if you think she may send them away!!

[Oma]

Gem
You know how tiring and awkward they can get ,
She's playing us too , his sister rang and she was all tears and it was all ,I can't cope , completely opposite to when we rang her..
His sister said well all the more reason you should be in hospital so MIL hung up on her 😠

[Daisy]

Good Friday morning everyone.

Nanto, welcome home. We've got sunshine, so I hope you have too. No rush to catch up, but hopefully it's a good day to get your washing dried.

Gem, you certainly did have a busy day with GS2 and GS3. They get on very well together despite their age difference. There seem to be more and more road accidents every day. Our roads are so crowded and everyone seems to be in a hurry. I do hope GS1 is ok for Sunday.

Oma, I agree with Gem. There is only so much you and B can do to help your MIL. At some point she has to stop playing one of you off against the other and accept the enormous amount of help you and B give her. I was going to say "with gratitude" but you'd be happy if she just said "thank you". You also have to protect your health and Bs. You sound exhausted, and there comes a time when you have to say enough is enough. Emotional blackmail is very hard to deal with. Sending hugs.

We're hoping to get some gardening done today. I picked all the green tomatoes last night, and we've got about 3 kg to make green tomato chutney with over the week-end.

[Lizzie48]

Good morning, Oma, I think you should tell MIL that enough is enough! She is wearing you all out, playing games as well by the sound of it all.

[Oma]

Well we managed to get her shopping without MIL so much easier.

The community nurses rang to say they were visiting so she had to stay home,

Had a big list for Morrisons, then over the road to Aldi then on the way back go to the chemist to pick up her medication that the hospital had changed.
B brought her bin in and made her bed,
I put the shopping away and made her a cup of tea and a sandwich.

The nurses are ringing tonight to check and they want her to take her own temperature,
They have left the ear thermometer
She rang earlier to say she couldn't use it , couldn't get it in her ear,
Could we go over.
Brian said no mam you will just have to tell them you can't use it.

GS came for tea that cheered us up he stayed about two hours and then I put my PJs on and I have no intention of going out in this awful weather again.

Daisy
I am drained , I felt like a good cry today but I thought I already have a headache if I cry it will make it worse.

How many jars of chutney will you get out of those tomatoes?
I bet it will smell amazing in your house 😁

Lizzie
She is a master game player 🙄

Gem
Is little E having a good time at Grandma's ,
I bet he loves staying,
Isn't it lovely when you peep in on them sleeping so peacefully,
You just want to kiss them don't you 😁

[Daisy]

Oma, if you feel like a good cry, go ahead. It will do you good, and might even ease your headache. MIL is really pushing her luck, so good for B for not going over. Spending some time with GS must have felt great after all this week's dramas with MIL.

I'm not sure how much chutney the tomatoes will make, but I got all the other ingredients in today. I've got two recipes for green tomato chutney, and this is slightly easier as there's not so much preparation.

I've made bara brith today, and am going to make some more tomorrow for the freezer. I haven't done any baking for ages, but even though bara brith is the easiest thing in the world to make I was still tired from standing in the kitchen. We've been buying cake just lately, and I've got fed up with it. It's just not the same as home made.

[Nanto2girls]

Good morning.

Sorry ladies, but it's didn't have time to read all the posts yesterday.
The day just flew by.

I think we are going to Wakefield today.

Dais,you were busy yesterday baking.
Homemade is so much better than bought cakes.

[Gemini]

Good morning everyone.

Nan2, it takes a few days to catch up after a holiday

I love bara birth Daisy but it's years since I made any. I bet the house smelled lovely.

Dear Oma, I really feel for you. I know it isn't what she wants, but if your MIL would accept it was time for a home, or at least warden controlled flat, your life and health would benefit greatly. I hope today is a better one for you xxx

Lovely afternoon and evening with little E yesterday. He's such a sweetheart. On Thursdays he eats around 5 and we eat later once he's gone. Last night we all ate together which he really enjoyed. He had ice cream and chocolate sauce with his blueberries instead of yoghurt - a big treat for him!

DD and SIL will pick him up after lunch. They have been to see a play in Bradford, adapted from DD's friends book, then stayed over.

[Lizzie48]

Good morning from a very wet and windy Holland!

Oma, I can understand you wanting to cry, I would scream!!

Daisy, I agree with you about home baking, bought cakes never taste the same.

Nanto, you will have enough to do after the holiday.

Gem, E would enjoy eating with you both.

[Oma]

Morning ladies

Daisy
Your right home made is so much better than shop bought plus it doesn't have all the additives,

Gem
Sounds like a lovely evening with E, ice cream as well , no the wonder he loves grandma😁
Lizzie
It's bright here for a change but very cold.

Well MIL saga continues,
SIl rang at 8pm nurses were there and wanted MIL to go back in hospital her oxygen was dangerously low,
Again she had a tantrum but then agreed to go,
So his sister said the ambulance is on its way , will you meet them at the hospital, or come and go down in the ambulance with her,
B said neither , J's shattered she's in her PJs and she's having a early night ,
Mother will have to go herself or you will have to do it.

She wasn't happy but I really was very tired and I didn't fancy sitting in the hospital till lord knows when.
We will go in to see her today but I have things of my own to do so we won't stay long ,

I slept 7 hours last night,
B went in the spare room so as not to disturb me he said I was sound when he came to bed.

[Gemini]

Morning Lizzie. It's fairly windy here but dry at the moment with a bit of sun.