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[Oma]

Morning ladies hope all those poorly people have a better day today .
Off to Hospital again this morning his usual bloods and Hickman line flush , must get some shopping tomorrow running low on milk etc like old mother Hubbard in our fridge 😊

[Plantaholic]

Going to visit my very very poorly friend in hospital today her husband doesn't think she will be coming home as she keeps getting haemorrhages (sp) what does one say to a friend who knows she is dying? He suggests I stay for no more than 1 1/2 hours as she gets so tired.

[Gemini]

Good morning all.
Plant, I'm so sorry about your friend. I don't know how you do talk to someone in that position, maybe it depends on her? She may want to just chat as if all was normal. I think I would, but then I suppose we don't know until we are in that position. The only friend I had who knew she was dying was only 40, with 2 young children, so it was tragic. She luckily had religious faith, which I truly believe helped her to see things in something of a positive light. I didn't see her right at the end however. ((HUGS)) to you Plant.

Daisy this morning my post is here!!
Have a good day everyone. The sun is shining in Cornwall this morning!

[WeeGranny]

Hope all poorly people are feeling better today. We have sunshine here and I've got the washing out.Fingers crossed the rain stays away until it's dry.

Plant, I hope your time with your friend isn't too upsetting. i used to talk about everything and anything to OH's Mum when she was very ill. Sometimes I made her smile!

Oma, good news about Brian's treatment.

[Qwerty]

Hi all after a busy 48 hrs I can get on 😛
Oma so pleased for Brian some light at the end of a long tunnel.
Daisy glad you are coining round but it does sap your energy for a while.
Today we are DEFINITELY going out for afternoon tea a voucher from DS and DIL looking forward to feeding my face lol.
Monday went as expected with my friends lots of tears and laughs, I was ok till her OH sent her a text which she couldn't read too emotional so I read it it was to tell her to enjoy her afternoon with good friends and how much he loved her well that was it the flood gates opened for us all, the restaurant staff must have that we had gone mad. Then she told us
she has a year left originally it was 18 mths to 2yrs but that was only if the chemo she is having now works we were gutted,. How can we meet up when she is gone whenever you book a table for 3 it's usually a table for four and just seeing an empty chair will break my heart.
Still she is getting on ok at the mo coughing quite a bit and complained of a pain from her ear right down her arm giving her pins and needles and when she rubs her arm she gets a sensation but doesn't feel it's her arm, it's the same side as her mastectomy.
She is renewing her marriage vows in September in a church in Masham a very pretty market town in the dales they both love very much just close family a meal in a pretty pub and they are paying for all the family to stay in a lovely hotel there, she showed us the dress online she has picked in Monsoon a gorgeous champagne lace affair which she has told OH she wants for her funeral sobering stuff but she is very calm and we hope the chemo works , the lungs are pretty bad both are affected according to the X-ray many tumours such a beautiful 40 yr old sweetheart.
Plant you are a way ahead of me but I total understand your pain and I send you hugs , sorry for being a bit sad on chat that's life isn't it.

[Plantaholic]

My friend was pleased to see me, she squeezed my hand and said my friend A......, her DD was there and said her mother didn't like people crying as another friend had. She was very tired but on the ball, I wore a top that she persuaded me to buy, we were great shopping friends. I didn't feel emotional until I got into the corridor, her DD gave me a cuddle and took me to my car. Someone from her family is with her all the time, her OH sleeps on a mattress beside her at night.

[Clover]

Qwerty and Plant,there's nothing to say is there?.I'm praying for you all.xx

[Clover]

We went to see "The Secret life of Pets". It was okay but I think all the best bits have already been shown in T.V ads and trailers.

There wasn't anything else I fancied seeing and I just felt I needed a break out of the house.The weather wasn't too promising or else we would have had a trip to Mumbles and our favourite ice-cream parlour. Still there's always another day.

[Nanto2girls]

So sad for both Qwerty and Plant. not a lot that can be said, but just be there for them

[ZIZI]

Qwerty some years ago a friend of mine was diagnosed with terminal cancer. She was very young, only in her thirties, we were all around the same age at the time. She had very young children. We also used to go out as a group, there were five of us, and we all felt very much the same as you. After she had gone we did as we had promised and still had our evenings out. This continued for about five years until people started moving away and circumstances changed. We always raised a glass at the start of our meal and on her birthday would leave a chair for her with a flower on. As I say, things changed and then of course when I was 39 I was diagnosed with cancer so not that long after our friend had passed and I was quite frightened having witnessed her suffering. Fortunately the outcome for me was different. I still speak to her husband from time to time and her children have grown into exceptionally lovely people and now have children of their own.

Sending love to Q & Plant. No other words.

[Oma]

So sad Plant and Qwerty , life can be so cruel can't it , hugs to both , Plant at least she was pleased to see you and she recognised you that must have been a relief for you xxx

[Qwerty]

Thanks ladies especially Zizi I feel we may drift apart without her just got that feeling but liked the flower idea when the time comes and we do met again, we next meet on her birthday and have decided to spend more than we usually do and get a voucher for her and OH for a night away, but of course I will be in touch with her by phone until her chemo is over

[Daisy]

Plant and Qwerty - big hugs. It's so hard, but you are both being really good friends - that's what friendship is all about. Plant - it must be hard to know what to talk about, but would your friend like you to chat about some of the times you've shared. She could listen without having to make a huge effort to converse if you said things like 'do you remember that time when ...' xxx

Qwerty - it would be so sad if you all drifted apart after sharing so much together. I hope that doesn't happen. Your friend is being very brave. xxx

[Gemini]

I have lost a friend very suddenly and shockingly, and not long after lost another to breast cancer, which we knew was coming (she was the same age as your friend Qwerty) I don't know which is worse, both are terrible.
((HUGS)) Qwerty and Plant, I'm sure you are each a comfort to your friend..

[Nanto2girls]

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