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[ZIZI]

Awww I have just received a beautiful hand tied bunch of 30 pale pink tulips. I have bought husband a new jacket for a Valentine present. We are having our valentine meal this evening as someone is coming around tomorrow. Steak, freshly made potato salad, garden salad, home made coleslaw. I have bought asparagus, parma ham and hollandaise sauce for a starter. I will make my hollandaise but last time I did it it split so I have bought a jar just in case. I have also bought a pineapple and am going to give that pineapple recipe a go although I will ask husband first as he rarely eats more than two courses. If he doesn't want the starter or pudding we will have it tomorrow. Going to get my beautiful champagne glasses out. Got a good bottle of prosecco in the fridge waiting. I do have several bottles of champagne but I am saving them for his 65th birthday in May and any other wonderful celebration that crops up (like our wedding anniversary also in May). It will be our 25th next year although we have been together for over 30 years.

Hope everyone who has been poorly is recovering. I haven't been feeling terribly well recently, nothing specific, just generally unwell.

It is grey and overcast here, bit showery and very cold. I so hope we do not get snow.

[Oma]

Yes plant it is , he has found a flat in a gated complex only 10 minutes from his job he can move into in the first week of March ,we not worried about him looking after himself as he like Brian did all the cooking and he can clean and iron just as good . We did worry about how he would take the brake up but he said he feels a weight has been lifted from his shoulders there has been a lot of tension as you can imagine , we are hoping we still get to see the 3 boys he has been Dad to them for 13 yrs and we are very fond of them but that will depend on them they are young men now oldest is 22 youngest 15 .

[Libra Gran]

Late hello from me its cold and dreary here, did get out with Shiloh in between showers. Had a bad night coughing, fingers crossed there is not another exacerbation rearing it's ugly head. I do have standby antibiotics and steroids should the need arise. My lovely hubs did all the housework for me while I was out, means a lot. Had a call from youngest DD as poor mobile signal from Devon, they arrived safely at their cottage and M was happy to report they were eating yummy cake in a local tea shop. This afternoon the girls are hacking, this is a surprise for them. DD and family looking at some village properties while they are there, with close enough links to Totnes. Glad your on the mend Oma, sad about BILs marriage, but these things happen sadly.

[Oma]

They do Libra and better finishing it than spending years being unhappy lots gone on that just couldn't be worked out , mind you I have always liked my SIL but she's opened my eyes the last couple of weeks , they broke up on the Thursday by the Saturday she had the house on the market by the Monday she had filed for Divorce and and joined a dating site , Today she's off for a weekend in a hotel with some man she met on there . She hasn't let the grass grow has she . Hope you ok keep warm don't let that cough get a hold again

[Libra Gran]

They do Libra and better finishing it than spending years being unhappy lots gone on that just couldn't be worked out , mind you I have always liked my SIL but she's opened my eyes the last couple of weeks , they broke up on the Thursday by the Saturday she had the house on the market by the Monday she had filed for Divorce and and joined a dating site , Today she's off for a weekend in a hotel with some man she met on there . She hasn't let the grass grow has she . Hope you ok keep warm don't let that cough get a hold again

Blimey she certainly hasn't Oma, good grief talk about out with the old in with the new. Personally would never use one of those dating sites, might be a real weirdo.

[Plantaholic]

I am sure she will get her comeuppance

[ZIZI]

My downstairs neighbour was with her partner for 12 years. To be honest, although he has never done anything bad to us, I have always thought she could do better. He is a big bloke, knows everything and works on the black market. He has four cars two of which are interchanged outside of our house which is annoying as he no longer lives there and we do have a parking problem. He is like a jack in the box, can come and go a dozen times a day. Neighbour said that when we had the Windows and doors done she wouldn't give him a key but she did. The night the Windows we're done Michelle, the neighbour, came up here to "toast" the Windows and it emerged that he had moved in with another woman within two weeks of moving out of her flat! The new woman, understandably, is not happy that he keeps going back to his old home! Michelle never allowed him to pay bills or be put on the mortgage, neither did he actually pay rent just made a contribution to household expenses so luckily she doesn't have a problem with who owns what.

Personally I think that he had it all set up before the split as it was his idea to split up. All the time he is going backward and forward she is not going to discover another friend although he says that if she does get a bloke he will back off. Mmmmm me and husband person do not believe that.

I do hope your bil gets to maintain contact with the children not just for his sake but also for theirs. Husband has been a fantastic dad to my natural son and, in my opinion, me to his sons. Cannot imagine splitting up with husband but I know if we did then we would still be mum and dad. Mind you if he persists in not letting me have my own way re holiday clothes .......... Ha ha you KNOW I will do what I want in the end.

[Oma]

Always seemed a sweet girl and she's never done anything to us but I was quite frankly shocked at her quickness to act , each to there own. mind you when they got together BIL had a big 4 bed detached and a super ube car and her own step dad said to BIL she will have noticed them before BIL and she's money driven ( she did like to spend big time ) but we all just laughed it off maybe he was right 😕

[ZIZI]

My sister in law (the one who died last year) told me in a fit of pique and jealousy that someone else had her brother's attention that all I wanted was husband's money! Strange thing is that he didn't actually have any because he was paying the mortgage on the (expensive) flat she lived in with her mother and re-mortgaged his own house to keep the business afloat. We even, a couple of times, used my credit card to pay company bills. She got the flat when mil died, sold it for a completely obscene amount of money (Twickenham - expensive area) wasted the whole bruddy lot and died in penury. Not a penny to my husband who was far too nice to insist on an agreement to get part of the proceeds of any sale. Bitter? No, not now but was a while ago.

I think after 33 years together we have proved her wrong............

It really is unfortunate that some people cannot see beyond the pound signs. I hope your BIL picks himself up and is happy. Good for him that he isn't going to be one of those chaps who cannot look after himself, that makes it much harder for them to adjust. My husband knows how to do most things except look for tissues before putting on a dark wash (yes the lint roller has been in action this week) , clean the bathroom and kitchen and dust all three of which he thinks are done by a fairy

[Oma]

Oh I hate tissues in pockets doesn't happen often but when it does I could scream , this week I (well Brian with me been poorly) has done DD washing as her washer broke and they needed a new one. Well our SIL is known for having carpet tacks in his pockets so he checked all his pockets before going in the washer he almost filled a trifle bowl with what he found

[Nanto2girls]

Spoke to my friend today, she's trying to keep upbeat since her diagnosis. We were going to go and see her today, but her brother had travelled 80 miles to visit her, and is staying over tonight.
We did send a card and flowers yesterday though,so she knows we are thinking of her. We will visit after the weekend.
Next stage is for her to have a full body scan, before she starts chemo.

It's so sad Oma, when a marriage breaks down, but sometimes it just can't be fixed. Pleased you're feeling more normal today.

We went to Wakefield shopping today, it was cold here when we set off, but it was a lot colder there, and it's only about 10 miles away.

[Gemini]

The child went to sleep eventually! He has always been a good boy at bedtime, but has been playing up a bit recently. He wanted me to stay with him a while, , which I did. I said goodnight, thought he was settled, but suddenly one by one all the teddies came hurtling down the stairs, and GS was following them. I took him firmly back, we had a few more cuddles, I sat with him a bit more then left, promising to return in 5 minutes. I watched him on the video monitor, and he fell asleep quite quickly after that.

[Daisy]

Nanto - good for your friend for keeping upbeat at such a difficult time. I'm sure it helps knowing you're thinking and caring about her.

Oma - glad to hear you're on the mend. Your BIL is doing the best thing, getting on with his life. It's so sad when people split up - but perhaps it's sadder if they stay together until the relationship becomes toxic.

Zizi - your neighbour would be better off without that man in her life! The sooner he parks his cars somewhere else the better all round.

Oh the tissues in the pocket syndrome!! In our house it's usually pencils - little short ones from a well-known store - and sawdust. OH does a lot of woodturning and the sawdust gets everywhere. My wellies were full of it the other day after GS1 had worn them while he was doing some turning with his granddad.

Gem - I hope you got to put your feet up with a glass (or 2) of wine.

[Nanto2girls]

Good morning, I bet you are all busy opening your Valentine cards this morning.
Hope you all have a good day.

[Daisy]

Good morning, Nanto - Happy Valentine's Day to you too.

OH has a large red envelope to open from two unidentified females (me and Eva!!!). Not sure whether anyone will send me one. It's not often we both remember either Valentine's Day or our wedding anniversary - but one year we did give each other Valentine's cards - exactly the same!

I hope you all have at least one nice surprise today.

We're off to see DS1 and family later this morning. It's Eva's first long trip in the car, but she is quite happy travelling. But it will be interesting to see what Eva and DIL's cat think of each other!