Remembering loved ones no longer with us.

[Nanto2girls]

Gone,but not forgotten.

[Nanto2girls]

Mam would have been 97 today.

[Daisy]

Nanto - a poignant day for you, your OH and FIL. She would have loved the Violets in her honour. xx

[Oma]

Oh Nanto a sad day how is FIL ?

[Gemini]

Aww, bless her.
A memoriam is sad, but more so when it is after recently losing the person xxx

[Plantaholic]

Great age, sad day for you all

[Gemini]

My mum would have been 95 today.
It has been so strange knowing the date was coming up and not making all the usual plans for her birthday.
I would have liked to have gone somewhere to think about her today, but I can still have my thoughts and memories here at home 🌹

[Nanto2girls]

As i always say Gem, treasure your memories.

[Gemini]

Thank you Nan2.
The first birthday without her was hard.

[Daisy]

Gem, sending love and a warm hug. The 'firsts' are the hardest I think. But it will be a date forever etched in your heart. Have you thought about having a small family occasion to mark the date - even if it's just a coffee and one of her favourite cakes. xx

[Gemini]

Remembering my mum today on the first anniversary of her death.
I seem to miss her more not less

I think of her a lot and OH and talk about her lots and I often do with friends. Sometimes about annoying thing about her as well as the good!
DD2 said that is all she would want, that we all remember her, and we certainly do.

[Plantaholic]

You were relieved when she passed away because she wasn’t happy to be here anymore. Now as time has gone by you only remember when she was happy and miss her.

[Gemini]

Well that is true to a certain extent Plant, but I still remember the difficult and sad times in the later years.
But yes I suppose my mum when she was really herself is what I miss. To lose my mum when I was 68 was a privilege but also hard as it's such a big adjustment not having someone in your life after so long.

[Daisy]

Gem, sending special hugs to you today. There's never a 'good' time to lose your Mum, or Dad for that matter. I think we all look back with the love that we had for them, and the first anniversaries for everything are particularly poignant.

It's a blessing that we look back mostly to the best times. As we get older and perhaps more aware of our own advancing years, that is where our thoughts naturally go - to the fondest memories.

There's no blueprint for grief, and talking about her is one of the ways you're grieving.

[Lizzie48]

Thinking of you Gem, I remember both my mother and father with fond memories, we often talk about them, it is 41 years ago that I lost my father and 25 my mother.