My Sister

[Daisy]

Plant - there's not much I could say that hasn't already been said, but you and your sister are in my thoughts. xxx

[WeeGranny]

Plant, you could do without all this family in fighting at this stage of your DS's life. Hopefully it'll all be resolved before too long. Sending you love xx

[Enfys]

Such a difficult time Plant, you could do without all the family issues. You are in my thoughts xx

[Lizzie48]

Such a difficult time for you all Plant, thinking of you.xxxxxx

[Plantaholic]

I spoke to my sister’s long standing friend yesterday, she helped him out with his children when his wife left him. He is a retired doctor and I was pleased to have a telephone chat with him yesterday evening. He had just got back from visiting her and said it was the right thing to do to get her home, she is peaceful and quite lucid at times. Nurses and carers are looking after her as well as her GD. He is ignoring the friction between the GD’s and Dil. There is no sign of her son arriving from Thailand!!! I think she is holding on for him but feel he is shirking his responsibility. My Dil has said she and my son will take me to visit her but dil is so busy at work.

[Daisy]

Plant - thank goodness for the doctor friend. I'm sure he was very pleased to be able to reassure you that it's the right thing to let your sister go home. Also ignoring the friction is good. You don't know what to think about her son - I've just Googled Covid cases in Thailand and they've had a huge spike in cases from July to Sept/Oct. The graph is going downwards but not as quickly as it rose. Perhaps your nephew is worried about bringing infection to his mum - or getting infected here. Or just the complications with travelling at the moment. It would be wonderful if you could go and visit her. xxx

[Plantaholic]

Spoke to my sisters GD who is looking after my sister, she was very emotional but very pleased her Nan is home she said my sisters face lit up when she saw all her things around her. Her GD said she is sleeping on the settee beside her my sister. . Apparently she was sleeping beside her in the hospital for a couple of days.

[Nanto2girls]

Your sister has a very good GD.

[Gemini]

What a caring GD, Plant. I'm so glad your sister is home.

[Plantaholic]

Bit worried about the GD, she has taken this on herself and was quite emotional on the phone, she asked me if I was against her bringing my sister home. I don’t think I have ever met her before but shall tomorrow, I will phone her today and ask if there is anything I can bring as she can’t get out to get food etc.

[Gemini]

Plant I think your GD will need help ( are carers coming in?) She also needs to take care of herself and have breaks.
Online deliveries are the way to go too xx

[Plantaholic]

There are four carers coming in to make sister comfortable and nurses twice a day. Her sister is bring in some food for her. When my sister’s doctor friend is there she goes and gets on the bed and has a nap but I do worry about her, she is desperate not to be asleep when the time comes.

[Daisy]

Plant - I'm sure the look on your sister's face when she came home will make everything worthwhile.

I think you GD is bound to feel emotional - she's caring enough to have taken on looking after your sister, but it's a huge responsibility, no matter how many carers are helping. I agree with Gem - anything you can put in place to make things a bit easier for her would be good. Online shopping, for sure. Also what about meal services - ready cooked and just need sticking in the oven or microwave? I don't suppose your sister is eating much, but GD certainly needs to. Does your sister have a cleaner or anyone to do her laundry? Has she got neighbours who would help if GD needed anything? Can your sister's doctor friend help in any way (although I imagine he's probably a similar age to your sister, so may not be fit enough, but just being at the end of the phone helps).

Your GD needs to sleep properly though. Is there a bedroom they can have two beds in?

It sounds as though there are people in the family who think GD shouldn't have brought her Nan home, and she needs reassurance that she's done the right thing for your sister.

Safe journey tomorrow. Your sister will be so happy to see you, so well done to you and your DS for making the long journey. Take care of yourself. xxx

[WeeGranny]

Will be thinking about you tomorrow Plant ! Hope all goes well with your visit xx

[Gemini]

I hope all goes well with your trip tomorrow Plant xx