My Sister

[Plantaholic]

I don't think so Gemini, she needs too much nursing now, she is unable to get out of bed now and doesn't seem to be able to keep food down.

[Daisy]

Plant - you must be very sad and worried about her, but it sounds as though her DIL is keeping an eye out for her. Is the hospital finding ways of getting nourishment into her if she can't keep normal food down? Did she have colitis some time ago - I think I can remember us talking about it. If so have they checked if that's putting her off her food. I do hope her son can come over from Thailand - I've no idea what the travel restrictions are, but he needs to be here.

Sending hugs to you. xxx

[Plantaholic]

Daisy, my sister has had bad health all her life but is very tough. Neither of her sons have been much help to her but her Dil and friends have been there for her. Her doctor friend is our only hope of getting information from the hospital. If she is not going to get better I hope she isn’t going to suffer too long but knowing how strong she is mentally she might bounce back even now.

[Gemini]

Plant, she may well bounce back. Who thought my (tiny, frail) mother could bounce back from broken hip, surgery for that then covid, In her 93rd year?

If your sister was well enough to be discharged to a nursing home (as opposed to care home) they can do all the nursing care hospitals can there, apart from medical procedures of course.
Keeping your dear sister in my thoughts xxx

[Daisy]

Plant - I do hope your sister can pull back from this current illness. She sounds like an amazing lady, and if she can bounce back, I'm sure she will. She won't give up from what you say about her. As Gem says, a nursing home would be more comfortable than hospital and they would perhaps be able to take more time in helping her to eat. Sending hugs. xxx

[WeeGranny]

Plant, sorry to hear about your sister. Worrying time for you all. Sending love xx

The home my OH is in is part nursing, part care. They have qualified staff on 24 hours and they tend to all the nursing needs e.g. taking meds, personal care etc. OH needs help moving and there are always two staff to help him. It's a much more caring environment than a hospital and it just might help her improve. OH's door is always open( unless they're doing some personal care), and he can watch the comings and goings in the corridor. It might be worth your sister's family making enquiries about something in the area.

[Plantaholic]

The problem is that she only has GC and Dil in this country, her son who hasn’t lived in this country since he was in his 30’s, he must be close on 70 now is very slow at coming forward to care for his mother. He is happy to buy her anything. I am not sure if he is able to travel from Thailand atm although he has had all his jabs now. I am going to see if I can get hole of his telephone number from one of his daughters. I would also like the telephone number of her doctor friend who is able to talk to her doctors.

[Daisy]

Plant are your sister's GCs able to help (I'm assuming they are adults, of course) together with your DIL. But, yes, it would be good to speak to her son, even if he isn't in a position to travel home.

[Nanto2girls]

Plant, this must be so worrying for you. I hope your sister bounces back.

[Gemini]

Plant, is there any more news on your sister?

[Plantaholic]

Thank you but I don’t think my sister will be bouncing back. I had tried to speak to her the day before yesterday but not able to due to the doctor being with her and the nurse was not able to take the phone to her so I rang her Dil yesterday evening and she had been to see her yesterday and said she was asleep all the time and was looking very frail. I asked about her son, my nephew coming from Thailand to see his mother and she said he was afraid of flying because of his heart, he had two stents fitted last year, they are all very angry with him. I don’t have any way of contacting him. My sisters Dil and her GC are doing their best to support her and one of her GD’s has moved into my sisters bungalow so she can sort out the mail. At least her doctor friend is keeping an eye on things at the hospital, he is able to talk to the doctors . I am going to phone my sisters house today and hope I can talk to her GD and ask her to let me have the doctors phone number from my sister’s phone book. Perhaps I will get sister’s son’s number too (that is her father).

[Gemini]

Sending love Plant. I hope you can get the doctor friend's number x

[Lizzie48]

Plant, what a worry. I hope you can get in touch with the doctor friend. xxx

[Nanto2girls]

Oh Plant, i hope you can get in touch with the doctor friend.

[WeeGranny]

Plant, I do hope you can get to speak to someone about your sister. It would be good too if your nephew could come home and at least visit his mother face to face.

Sending hugs ((())) x