Golf widow!

[Gemini]

Anyone else here a golf widow? Or any other sort of sporting activity?

I must say first of all that I am happy that my OH has golf in her life. It keeps her fit and active and has supplied a whole new social life. Most of OH's friends are still working, but now she has lots of retired ones too. They are lovely, and include me in many social events. I approve heartily of her golf life, and am thankful she is well enough to play.

The downside is that she plays a lot, especially over the summer months. Every Tuesday is competition day, every Thursday afternoon is Ladies Roll Up - whoever is free turns up and then teams are made. Tea/coffees/lunches in the clubhouse naturally follow these sporting days. She often plays at weekends too.
Today for example. Bank holiday Monday and OH heading for the golf course. There are often away competitions mid week or weekend, and as OH is good, she often qualifies for these.

In June she is having a 5 day golfing holiday with her 3 closest golf friends. They are now my friends too, and I am happy for her that she is doing this. They will have lots of fun.
Still, I feel I would like another holiday and it's not looking as though it is on the cards. I'm not jealous, I'm glad she is going, but I suppose I wish it was me!

I would love a few days in the sun with friends - minus the golf

The answer is to find my own equivalent to OH's golf, but as I have far less free time than she does, when would I fit it in?!

[Shemadee]

I used to be a work widow before OH retired as most of his work was evenings and weekends. It was also difficult to make long term plans for holidays etc as any self employed person knows, you can't afford to turn down work or the client may well go elsewhere.
Now OH is retired I have the opposite problem and really need some space! Just a few regular hours each week would be fine. Women! Never satisfied!

[Qwerty]

Gem if you can't beat her join her 🏌🏻

[Plantaholic]

My OH used to play golf with his father before we met but he gave it up because it was taking over his life. My SIL wanted to play golf, his father was a very good player but they had 4 children and my DD said, "so when are you thinking of playing" so he took up squash.

[Gemini]

I used to be a work widow before OH retired as most of his work was evenings and weekends. It was also difficult to make long term plans for holidays etc as any self employed person knows, you can't afford to turn down work or the client may well go elsewhere.
Now OH is retired I have the opposite problem and really need some space! Just a few regular hours each week would be fine. Women! Never satisfied!

Shem me too, my ex husband was a workaholic, I have spent a lot of my life lonely, if not for the children which were my world, life would not have been much fun!

[Grauntie Mag]

Golf widow here Gem! I have to say I look forward to Wednesdays, Saturdays, roll up Mondays and all the jollies in between,including a week in Spain for him and peace and quiet for me. But then I have been married to him for ever.😆

[Daisy]

My OH has only played golf sporadically, but he has other interests which take up quite a lot of his time.

He has always worked unpredictable hours and couldn't relax until he'd done everything he felt he needed to do. Over the years there have been times when we've been unable to say, grab a few days holiday at half-terms because of his charitable commitments, (when I was teaching) and I was quite resentful, even though I also felt I was being selfish. He's scaled back on some of those commitments now, and it has meant we've been able to move dog training classes from Wednesday day-time to Monday evenings, effectively giving us another free day, which is great. But there always seems to be something else gobbling up his time while I take on the tasks of the dutiful housewife - not my natural role as you know. There always seems to be something though - but I'm glad OH is busy and happy, I just wish I had more free time to do the things I'd like to do - hobbies etc. I was never cut out to be a housewife.

I think I was very lucky to have a fulfilling work-life, even though I struggled to balance being a mum with the demands of the job.

[Nana]

My OH is off with his mates for three days golfing next week & the same the month after. I do envy him if the truth be known.

[Glammanana]

OH has been spending the last 18mths teaching himself the banjo and is not doing too bad,he has two one is a small "George Formby" type and the other is a full sized round skimmed banjo,he has a practice every now and then and can now take his instraments out into his shed,lets hope the neighbours don't have their hearing aids in when he gets into full flow,apart from that he doesn't have any other hobby except his beloved Liverpool Football Team which stops the world when they play,he also follows our local team Tranmere Rovers if he can get cheap tickets with DS1 who is a part time groundsman at Tranmere.
Gems have you considered taking up Art classes? at our local Centre a group go to different parts of the Country (not to far away)and spend a few hours sketching etc a nice easy way to make friends and end up with your own art work.

[Daisy]

Glamm - I keep promising myself I'll join an art class - just as soon as I have time!! But it would be fun.

I smiled at your mention of Tranmere Rovers. Niether of my sons have ever been really 'into' football, but one day I overheard DS2 saying to DS1 (they were about 8 and 10) that he supported Liverpool. DS1 was indignant and told DS2 he should be supporting his home town team, ie Luton. DS1 supported Liverpool because that was his home town. DS2 looked very upset, so I couldn't help setting the record straight. DS1 was born in Bromborough, making Tranmere Rovers his home team. Apologies to TR supporters.

My OH is at a woodturning event all day today. I don't mind - he always enjoys it and I've got a whole day to do as I please. So I've spent a while cleaning out cupbaords and doing a few loads of washing - it's drying nicely. Aren't I a lucky girl.

[Plantaholic]

We have a banjo group here and they play for charity, they are call banjovi. I have their tape, very jolly music, there might be a banjo group near you glamm.

[Glammanana]

Plant there is a group in Liverpool but they only meet up of an evening between 7-10am and OH would not enjoy being out that late in Town and the transport back is not to good really,Ricky Tomlinson does have a banjo club at his Comedy Club but I'm not sure if it is for beginners or players who are more experienced I must find out next time I see him,he pops into our local British Legion every now and then for fund raising events and is a very approachable chap.

[Nana]

On my own for the next few days. OH's golf buddies called round this morning. Back Thursday. Our pooch has stayed by the door all day waiting for him to come home. He's such a loveable, loyal dog.

[Gemini]

Aww, I imagine he is good company for you while OH is away Nana.

[Daisy]

Awww, Nana, Eva does that when either of us goes out. But if we are both out she usually goes and sleeps on a bed somewhere and comes downstairs looking slightly sheepish when we get back! Enjoy lots of cuddles with your pooch while OH is away.