At our age many of us will have exes, or our OHs may have them.
If you have them do you get along well with them, tolerate, them or avoid them like the plague???
I was married for over 30 years, and luckily have good a relationship with my ex husband. He and my OH get along very well, as do his OH and I. My only other OH is in America. I am unlikely to ever see them again, so neither will OH meet them.
My OH is on good terms with exes. I know this is a good trait. However I am the jealous type (not to mention the hypocritical type, as she is fine with my ex!) I accept they exist but I don't want to see them! My argument is my ex is the father of my children and grandfather of my grandchildren. Its vital we get along for the family's sake. If we didn't have any, I doubt we would see each other, we would just drift apart.
OH and I are buying a house to rent. We have little income now and this would provide some. OH has been wanting to do this for a while now. A friend of OH's had the same idea and they decided to buy one together. Half the income, but also half the outlay. OH and I will co own her half, and if anything happens to her, her half becomes mine. They have known each other a long time, and trust each other, as you have to to go into something like this.
The downside, for me is that this person is an ex of OH. Many years ago, and only for 3 years. They lived together though and it was very serious at the time. OH cannot understand my problem with exes. I can't get it out of my head that she is an ex. Of course, the fact that she is tall, slim and 9 years my junior doesn't exactly help! I know OH has no interest in the ex, and I presume ex has no interest in her. Ex left OH many years ago, and atm is seemingly happy with a partner of 2 or 3 years.
I was of course consulted about the house purchase. OH knows I wish it wasn't with this person but I accept she was the one able to do this. I don't like her much a person either! She irritates me, but of course I can't know if I would feel the same if there wasn't history! (Although she actively dislikes cats and children, I am never going to get along with someone like that
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If you have them do you get along well with them, tolerate, them or avoid them like the plague???
I was married for over 30 years, and luckily have good a relationship with my ex husband. He and my OH get along very well, as do his OH and I. My only other OH is in America. I am unlikely to ever see them again, so neither will OH meet them.
My OH is on good terms with exes. I know this is a good trait. However I am the jealous type (not to mention the hypocritical type, as she is fine with my ex!) I accept they exist but I don't want to see them! My argument is my ex is the father of my children and grandfather of my grandchildren. Its vital we get along for the family's sake. If we didn't have any, I doubt we would see each other, we would just drift apart.
OH and I are buying a house to rent. We have little income now and this would provide some. OH has been wanting to do this for a while now. A friend of OH's had the same idea and they decided to buy one together. Half the income, but also half the outlay. OH and I will co own her half, and if anything happens to her, her half becomes mine. They have known each other a long time, and trust each other, as you have to to go into something like this.
The downside, for me is that this person is an ex of OH. Many years ago, and only for 3 years. They lived together though and it was very serious at the time. OH cannot understand my problem with exes. I can't get it out of my head that she is an ex. Of course, the fact that she is tall, slim and 9 years my junior doesn't exactly help! I know OH has no interest in the ex, and I presume ex has no interest in her. Ex left OH many years ago, and atm is seemingly happy with a partner of 2 or 3 years.
I was of course consulted about the house purchase. OH knows I wish it wasn't with this person but I accept she was the one able to do this. I don't like her much a person either! She irritates me, but of course I can't know if I would feel the same if there wasn't history! (Although she actively dislikes cats and children, I am never going to get along with someone like that
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! I was actively nice to her and would sometimes have a coffee with her. There was no way she was going to intimidate me, so I got in first, whether she liked it or not. It was years, before I was happy that he was saying my name and not hers. 
He never remarried, and follows me around if he sees me and talks about things that happened over 30 years ago, which enrages OH 
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