Two Sons One Caring and One Disinterested

[Enfys]

So sorry Zizi (hug))

[Daisy]

Zizi - you're a very brave lady, and I really hope one day your son will know the truth about how much you love him. Big hug. xx

[Shemadee]

Really sad Zizi. My middle brother has a huge chip on his shoulder and is totally convinced that he was singled out for mistreatment by our mother and that this is somehow my fault! Fortunately when he was sounding off at a family party my somewhat older cousins heard and told him he was talking nonsense (which went down like a lead balloon). He has effectively spent his whole life falling out with family, colleagues and anyone he comes in to contact with. Sad as he was academically the brightest of us all.

[Daisy]

Shem - that is really sad about your middle brother. He doesn't sound a very happy man.

Perhaps it's because I'm an only one (my sister died in babyhood) but I find sibling relationships fascinating. You can all be brought up by the same mother and father, but each one has a totally different view of the experience.

[Bizzy Lizzy]

I agree with you Daisy I too have no knowledge of what it is like to have a sibling and sometimes I really wish I had a sister now that both of my parents have gone. Shem it sounds as if your brother would start a fight in an empty room so no surprise that someone else has to take the blame for his unhappiness for which he alone is responsible .
Zizi take hope from the fact that sometimes true memories are triggered where false ones have taken their place so there is always hope. Nonetheless you are in a very sad position with your DS.
Oddly my DS2 has very good memories of his childhood but still doesn't bother with us and DS1 can remember very little about his but is very caring.

[Plantaholic]

My DS never just pops in to see me but he is there if I need him, quite happy with that. He and my lovely DIL are always very hospitable and caring when I go to there house, invited of course.