DS1 lives on the other side of the world but makes time to keep in touch regularly with long Face Time calls and lots of emails. He always asks how we are and is genuinely interested in the answer.
DS2 lives five minutes away and doesn't really bother with us at all. No phone calls, visits only on birthdays (DH's and mine) and Mothers/Fathers Day. He does appear from time to time if he wants a favour but mostly now that is done by email. When I do speak to him on the phone I have the feeling that he is talking down to me, he can seem very patronising.
Do other GRU-ers have this problem and if so how do you cope with it. It is hard not to resent DS2 but I have never said anything to him about my feelings. Neither DH or I would ever put pressure on him to come to see us as we feel that is emotional blackmail and also if he doesn't come without pressure what is the point? Should I speak out though?
DS2 lives five minutes away and doesn't really bother with us at all. No phone calls, visits only on birthdays (DH's and mine) and Mothers/Fathers Day. He does appear from time to time if he wants a favour but mostly now that is done by email. When I do speak to him on the phone I have the feeling that he is talking down to me, he can seem very patronising.
Do other GRU-ers have this problem and if so how do you cope with it. It is hard not to resent DS2 but I have never said anything to him about my feelings. Neither DH or I would ever put pressure on him to come to see us as we feel that is emotional blackmail and also if he doesn't come without pressure what is the point? Should I speak out though?
Comment