Care Home or Home Care?

[Mimi]

Plant I don't know about you but when I was in my teens the prospect of getting old seemed so far away that there was no need to even give it a second thought but time as pasted in the blink of an eye !

[Skye]

Ladies if MIL would by some miracle manage to transfer from bed to toilet/chair, she will be welcome back home with us where she has been for the past 20 years. How do you manage otherwise, apart from being bedridden wearing incontinence pads which would horrify her. Any experience of this?

[Oma]

Skye my late FIL had to have the nappies before he died he hated the fact we had to change them but it was mostly on my MIL,s shoulders when we couldn't be there he often cried over it . Funny enough he was ok when nurses changed him it was just with the family , he felt humiliated although I for one didn't mind doing it at all . But it is a lot of hard work and although my FIL was just a bag of bones he was still heavy to lift MIL still having trouble with her back and shoulder

[Nana]

Mum wears incontinence pads & has for yrs so doesn't mind being changed. I don't know if it's the same in all areas but I pushed for Mum to get her pads free. She can now pee & poop till her heats content & it doesn't cost her a penny 😂 As you see we deal with it all with a sense of humour.

[Daisy]

Ladies if MIL would by some miracle manage to transfer from bed to toilet/chair, she will be welcome back home with us where she has been for the past 20 years. How do you manage otherwise, apart from being bedridden wearing incontinence pads which would horrify her. Any experience of this?

Skye, I've no experience, but I believe hoists and other aids can be installed if your MIL does come back to your home. I don't know how much easier this makes things, but it must help.

Plant - what utter nonesense! Neither of us is old! I've decided 90 is the new 60.

[Skye]

Thanks Daisy we are thinking of all possibilities, especially as she's still relatively young.