Best Wishes, Gem

[Gemini]

Daisy it took me four weeks to be brave enough!

[Oma]

Gem
My SILs sister had hers done the week after you she had several complications and is still struggling with the swelling etc
She had her other knee done last year and flew through it , back at work in just under 3 month but this one has been completely different.
My neighbour who I don’t see often I spoke too a few weeks ago was walking with a stick she was telling me she had broken her hip last year and it took months to heal and still gave her pain, they wanted to replace it but she wouldn’t have it done she had enough when it was broken, she’s in her 80s so I can understand why.

Everyone heals at different rates don’t they , I think you have done everything you have been told to do so that’s helping you along ,
We have seen these operations on hospital programmes not the most delicate procedures is it 😱😁

[Daisy]

Daisy it took me four weeks to be brave enough!

I think driving is quite a scary thing to do after any surgery, and four weeks isn't that long. xx

[Gemini]

All going on the knee front I'm sure. I can see progress all the time.
Consultant check on Tuesday so I will know more then.

I have a lot of pain in the night as I have said. This can go on well into the morning, and involves neck back etc by morning, not just the knee.

I have felt quite down recently. I put it down to after effects of surgery, ongoing pain, very poor sleep and a bit of an 'aimless' life at present.

I am very tearful about my mum, who we lost in April, but also dad who died over 13 years ago! So many sad memories flooding back!

I give myself a talking to then I'm OK for a while. Visitors help, yesterday was a good day.

Sorry for the moans but I don't want to put any of this onto OH or my family

[Daisy]

Gem, there are no 'rules' about grieving for a loved one, and I don't think it's unexpected that losing your mum had brought back your grief when you lost your dad. Time is irrelevant, and for your mum it's only about 6 months. I think at the time of a bereavement you are busy dealing with everything, and I don't think it's at all surprising that undergoing major surgery has had that effect on you. Things will get easier and one day you will smile to yourself and realise that you are having happy memories flooding back as well.

As you get stronger on your knee and can get back to your normal life that will help as well.

Just a thought on the pain in your neck and back etc. I'm sure you were probably 'protecting' your knee by adjusting your posture and now you can stand better those other muscles are readjusting to a more natural/normal position. Could you ask your physio for some exercises to help those areas strengthen and adjust again.

Sending very big (gentle) hugs. xxx

[Sum1Ls]

Not moaning, just describing the inevitable consequence of surgery and continuing pain. Not being able to get out is a sure prescription for feeling down so I’m not surprised you feel a bit miserable.

Good advice from Daisy about the physio. hang on in there and you’ll get through this and you can moan on here whenever you like!

[Gemini]

Thank you both xx

I will speak the physio on Tuesday. I have a session with him after the consultant.
I have 2 treatments booked with my sports massage lady for November and December.
She will help me too.

[Plantaholic]

Moan all you like on here if you don’t want to share with the family. I don’t think it is unreasonable to feel down after major surgery.

[Lizzie48]

Gem, what is "moaning"?? You have been through a lot lately, it will hit you but you will soon see the light at the end of the tunnel!xxxxx

[Oma]

Gem
Having such a busy life you have suddenly got all this time on your hands to think and all these emotions are overwhelming you,
As Daisy said when your Mum died you had so much to organise and sort out you didn’t give yourself time to grieve ,

I lost my Father 51 years ago and honestly I’m still grieving .
I have his photo on my dressing table and I talk to him while im doing my hair every morning ,
If I allowed myself I would cry every morning too.

I think as Daisy said your trying to protect your leg so maybe your tensing up and not laying in the most comfortable position.
Be kind to yourself allow yourself to feel sorry for yourself occasionally, your not Wonder Woman, you have been through a lot lately and believe me lack of sleep is mind numbing .
When your so tired everything seems worse but hang in there it’s got to get better lv xxx

[Clover]

I agree with the others Gem. You’re bound to feel down after all you’ve been through. We all feel low from time to time and think it’ll stay like that forever even if we haven’t been going through the pain, lack of sleep etc. like you have. It will get better and please don’t bottle it all up inside. I don’t think your lovely OH and family would like to know you’ve been struggling on your own.Of course we’re all here to support you as best we can. xx

[Daisy]

Gem, I hope you're feeling a bit better today. Have you slept ok the last couple of nights? xx

[Gemini]

Thank you everyone.

Daisy, last night wasn't too bad. Much better than the night before. I think it's becoming easier to lie in a more natural position with less extra pillows all around me!

I have felt a lot better today. Less sad.
Although my knee is still swollen and sore the rest of my leg is almost back to normal thank goodness.
Upwards and onwards.

[Daisy]

Great progress, Gem. You're doing very well. xx

[Plantaholic]

At least it is going the right way Gemini.