Raising a gender neutral child

[Daisy]

Avo - I would worry about bullying as well.

One of the biggest fears many children have is not fitting in, being different and feeling like an outsider.

[Gemini]

An update - over 4 years down the line.
You will need to go to the top of the page to read the original post to remind yourselves I expect.

The child, B, is still in GS2's class at school and is in his circle of close friends.
For some time B was They/Them. Then for some time until very recently B was She. Over time I have noticed far less of any feminine signs in B, they seem like a boy with longer hair.

Yesterday GS2 told me B is now He!

When referring to B later GS said She, then said 'It's confusing because he was she for so long.'


Let's hope this child now 8 years old, can just continue as boy.

[Daisy]

Gem, it's interesting to have an update. The poor child must have gone through a lot of anxiety around all this confusion. But if he is now settling into being 'he' let's hope his parents are fully accepting of this, and he can grow, develop and mature as he wishes.

Incidentally, I know of someone who recently gave birth to a premature baby. The hospital were unable to tell initially if the baby was male or female - the scans had said "male" but because (I guess) of birth traumas it wasn't clear. Their grandparents were so upset and worried and didn't tell people the babe had arrived until they knew for certain that they had the most beautiful baby grandson. There will be no confusion about how that baby will be brought up!