Living the life of an old lady!

[Gemini]

I know at 66 many would say I am an old lady! By today's standards mid 60's is not old however.
Many of the very active golfers at OH's club are ladies in their 70's and even 80's.

I am not sporty active, but I do normally have a busy life. Seeing friends and family socially, entertaining at home, getting out and about, seeing films and plays.

I feel I have been transported forward 20 years or more and am living the life of a much older person.
My mum was very active throughout her life, but as her 80's progressed she was very happy to live a life of doing not very much. Snooker, Soaps and quizzes on TV, knitting until her eyesight prevented her, audio books, visits from family and the odd trip out. She was content with the simple day to day routine. I am more sociable than my mum is so I will probably want more contact as I get older than she likes. I will I'm sure however be happy with plenty of lazy days with not much to do.
Just not yet!

I know this won't last and things will of course get better. Even spring and summer weather will improve this situation.

Does anyone else feel this way?

[Grauntie Mag]

Woman, at 66 you are a mere chick! We have always been busy people too, and yes, we seemed to have slowed down. Our friends say the same. Now we are all having our vaccinations we are revving up again! Each time we see a programme about the Dales we get wanderlust, we are booked in at Giggleswick in April but don’t know yet whether we will be able to go.
I am sure we will all find our mojos eventually.
Hang on in there Gem, you will surely revert to an improved version of your former self. 😁

[Gemini]

Thanks Grauntie

We have a canal boat holiday booked in April, but have little faith it will happen. We live in hope though!

[Daisy]

Gem - did you ever think you'd look forward to a canal holiday? I remember you were a little doubtful when you booked it. I think it should be brilliant, based on the one experience of a canal holiday I've had! Fingers crossed it can go ahead.

I agree with Grauntie! I'm heading at great speed towards my 78th birthday, and still think I'm not "old"! But the various lockdowns have given me chance to slow down a little and smell the roses, as they say. It's not a bad thing after spending the rest of my life in the fast lane. I am quite ready to speed up again when we can, but for the moment it's ok to wake up in a morning with nothing on the agenda.

I know it's not the same for everyone though, and I really do sympathise. xx

[Gemini]

You were doing so much Daisy, I'm glad you have slowed down to be honest

I'm still unsure about the canal boating btw!!

[Nanto2girls]

I'm 70 next and don't feel old. Things have slowed down here as well,because of lockdown.
More so for hubby, he doesn't see his pals like he did. They do keep in touch with regular phone calls.
Things pretty much the same for me as they were before. i still go to in laws a couple of times a week,and whenever else needed.
I do miss going to different towns shopping like we used to. Hopefully we will get those times back.

[aggie]

I’m 83 and my latent laziness has surfaced
when we moved to the Grannyflat I was busy with Jim , with the lovely carers of course . Then after he died my DD took great care of me , making sure I had outings and a social life ......
then the virus ....
now I have taken back some of the tasks DD was doing for me , I never was houseproud and I still just dust when I notice ! I cook for myself , do the washing , change the bed etc , so I think I am not sinking into old age yet .
I do look forward to getting out and about after I have my second Jab , but only when we are told it’s ok

[Oma]

We went out every day even if it was only to buy a loaf or a bottle of milk we made sure we went out ,
Every Sunday morning we met with friends for Breakfast , spent time with family and had days out ,

Now we get up and wonder what we can do to keep moving and to occupy our minds ,
I can see why old people who are in homes or alone fall asleep all day , Its so tedious at times ,

I do sometimes like the fact we can sit and chat on a morning and not feel rushed to get dressed , but once my housework is done and bits of washing etc , I am finding it hard to find stuff to do .

In my mind I am still a young girl but some days I do feel old , today was one of those days because I am so tired , but normally I try to stay young of mind

[Daisy]

Aggie - I hadn't thought of it, but perhaps it's latent laziness that is enabling me to be 'busy' doing very little. I'm sure you're not sinking into old age.

Gem - you have mentioned once or twice over the years that I could slow down a bit, and I didn't think so at the time, but you were right! There are so many things though that I still want to do/learn/enjoy and I often find myself flitting from one thing to another - anything that catches my interest. I've just binge watched two painting tutorials on how to do snow, and am just going to take Eva round the block. We both need a bit of fresh air before bedtime.

[Plantaholic]

Hi Aggie, you are a year ahead of me. I am feeling frustrated not being able to enjoy the activities that I enjoyed before Covid struck. I realise that I have already lost a year enjoying those outings and activities when I have not many years left to feel able to take part.

[Lizzie48]

I think we all feel the same, I don't like it though!!! I love to get out and about, now the out and about is to the supermarket. I did get a bike ride in on Tuesday and treated myself to a bunch of roses, exciting!

I don't admit it but sometimes feel like an old woman!!! Days with nothing to do and nowhere to go. Oh, when the weather is better and we can get out more it will take 10 years off of us.

[Plantaholic]

That's a thought Lizzie, I hope you are right.

[Lizzie48]

I have just lost a lovely neighbour, Grace, such a sweet, kind lady, she came to live here 12 years ago after losing her husband, her daughters both live here so she moved. She was very active, always on the go, we have a local bus and I am sure the timetables were set out for her! She went to game, hobby afternoons etc to occupy herself, a few months ago she was having problems with her legs and as she was a diabetic she was admitted to the hospital, she came out 4 weeks ago but with 24 hour care and the poor lady died on Monday, she was 80 years old, or young as she would say. She came to live in the Netherlands from Indonesia, I think 1954/55, my DIL's mother came at the same time.

She loved my GD's as she had boys, she would give them a little parcel with Easter, Christmas etc, she never missed, they did get on for December 5th, when I told GD1 that the lady was ill GD1 was really upset.

She was young minded, enjoyed life and really kept going.

[Gemini]

Oh how sad Lizzie. It's hard to lose a friend and she sounded a lovely lady xx

[Daisy]

Liee - what a sad loss of your friend, so soon after your dear sister. She sounds as though she enjoyed her life, which is a comfort. Sending hugs. xx