To know the gender or not at baby scans?

[Gemini]

DD3 is now saying they are thinking of not finding out the sex of their baby at the 20 week scan. I was hoping to find out so that if it is a girl I can buy lovely things
Entirely their choice though, we will just have to wait longer if that is what they decide.

DD2 wanted to know both times. DD1 I think was planning to wait until the birth. As it happened she needed genetic tests early on which also showed the sex, so they decided they may as well know the sex along with the other results.

There was no option to find out the sex with any of my pregnancies, although I did have scans with DD3.

I'm not sure I would have wanted to know. Maybe with DD2, as I really didn't mind what I had that time. With 1 and 3 I really wanted a girl. I think being told it wasn't what you prefer in an appointment rather than with the relief and joy of holding a new baby would be a different thing.

Some people feel differently I know, and think the longer they had to adjust to the sex of the baby if they have a preference and it isn't it, is best.

Would you have liked the choice to find out the sex of your babies before they were born?

[Oma]

I don’t know if I would of Gem , as you say we didn’t have the opportunity when we were pregnant .
Although we were convinced it was another girl before DS was born 😁

Our Martin &Clare have chosen not to know .

Bs cousin had twins last week one of each , they chose to find out so they could prepare .

[Nanto2girls]

Like most of us here,i didn't have the option to find out.
I would have done if it had been possible.
GD1 and nephew and his wife want to to in advance.

[Daisy]

I definitely wouldn't have wanted to know with either of mine. I'd have missed that magic moment when you see your new baby for the first time and say "hello, little boy/girl".

We didn't know the gender of any of our GCs in advance either.

I always remember a friend who was having a planned Section (for medical reasons) say "Baby <name> will be born on Friday at 9.30". I know everyone is different, but that seemed very strange to me.

[WeeGranny]

No way!

[Gemini]

Daisy, I do find it odd when people refer to an unborn baby by it's name!
With our three GC we weren't told the definite names until after they were born, but we were pretty sure what GD's name was going to be.

[Clover]

I’m glad I didn’t have to decide.
It must cause a bit of a dilemma if one parent wants to know and the other doesn’t.

[Daisy]

Gem - the names weren't a problem for us because none of us had chosen names until after the baby was born. We had a short list but that was all.

Clover - I hadn't thought about what would happen if one parent wanted to know and the other didn't. It would be impossible to keep it secret, and I'm sure the one in the know would accidentally give the game away.