Wedding Gift for a Couple Who have Everything

[Grauntie Mag]

My DDs are invited to a friend’s wedding later in the year. The friend is marrying for the second time, this time to a very wealthy man. They have a fabulous house and go away for fabulous holidays all the time. No-one begrudges her happiness but the wedding list, oh the wedding list! Ornaments for £300, crystal glasses that cost a bomb. Neither DD can afford anything on the list as they have families and obviously they budget to exist like most young people. I said buy a decent bottle of champagne between them, I’ll be sending my usual tea bag squeezer. 😆
I might add she was in the same financial position as DDs and other friends until she met the new man.
What would you advise in this situation?

[Gemini]

Hmm, tricky one!
As they are so well off it seem very rude to ask for expensive gifts on the wedding list.
I think your idea of champagne is a good one Grauntie, or maybe a voucher for a nice restaurant.

[Oma]

I agree with you a Bottle of Fizz will do ,
I hate when your given a list and put on the spot , she obviously doesn't need anything its just a show off list ,
If she's any kind of friend she will remember what its like and be pleased with whatever they get her , otherwise she's no friend and very superficial '
I hope they don't feel blackmailed into getting something they struggle to afford and follow your sound and sensible advise GM

[Grauntie Mag]

One of the things on the list was a weekend away! DD2 says she is going to collect vouchers from the Sun for their £14 holiday offer. 😆

[Nana]

What a cheek! I always ignore lists & just do my own thing.

Love your "women are like teabags" quote.😂

[Gemini]

Grauntie, love the Sun vouchers suggestion! Friends of ours buy The Sun to get those vouchers and have had several of those holidays.
I doubt it is what the happy couple have in mind though

A Weekend Away, the cheek of it!!

[Glammanana]

I have to agree with Oma on this one this friend should remember where she was a few years ago and forget her airs & graces,I love the "Sun Voucher" idea that would certainly bring her back to the land of the living don't you think.
For people I am stuck with for presents I have gone for a gift voucher for a reasonable amount at a garden centre for maybe a good quality out door plant which they can nurture over the coming years.

[Enfys]

I’m with Nana...ignore the list. What happened to just being grateful that someone thought enough about you to buy a gift and as for a weekend away.........speechless!!

[Grauntie Mag]

....or tea at the Ritz? 🙄

[Gemini]

For the weddings I have been to in recent years they have all suggested that if you want to buy them anything, vouchers for certain shops would be welcome, which means you are free to go as high or low as you want with cost, or donations towards a honeymoon, once again the sum is up to you.
I think this couple are out of touch with the world now. Most couples already have homes so don't need all the stuff couples did years ago. Or they are just greedy

[Grauntie Mag]

Just so, methinks Gem! I don’t think there is one normal household item on the list, just luxury goods. They have everything and more already.

[Nana]

Greedy then.👎

[Shemadee]

They come across as very greedy! If they have so much they could follow Harry and Meghan and ask for donations to a charity.

DD2 kept being asked for their present list. She deliberately put several inexpensive items on it but then one friend announced that she had bought all of the cheaper options! Sometimes you just can’t win!

A rose from David Austin Roses makes a lovely gift. They offer potted roses by post or vouchers.

https://www.davidaustinroses.co.uk/plant-centre-and-gardens

[Daisy]

The list sounds totally selfish and I'm sure your DDs aren't the only ones wondering what to do.

I would be tempted to thank the bride-to-be for the kind invitation but feel embarrassed about accepting because I can't realistically afford to buy anything from her gift list, so would she prefer me to decline the invitation, or would she like me to make a donation to a charity of her choosing instead.

[Plantaholic]

Yes Shemadee, they could choose one with a wedding name. Or you can buy part of a vineyard, so many rows I think. Go with a quirky present.