Separate Rooms?

[Gemini]

My reflexologist, early 30's, was telling me that she and her OH have separate rooms, due to his snoring. Another friend of mine, 17 years my junior, has had separate rooms with her husband since before they were married for the same reason.

I would have been devastated not to share a room and bed with my husband when we were young.
It's not only about sex, it's about closeness, cuddling and chatting in bed, the whole thing of being with someone.
I think it is sad enough when it happens when couples are older, but these young couples amaze me! What is nicer, especially when young than to fall alseep with your loved one?

I can understand thought that lost sleep is not a good thing, so if it is so bad, I suppose it is the answer in some cases.

[Libra Gran]

We had separate beds for a while,when I was working.Brian is a night fidgeter and used to disturb me,which was difficult when I had to be up for work. Now we are back to a double bed,he still fidgets but I can sleep in now if I want.

[Oma]

I know what you mean Gem but I supposed if you are getting no sleep it has to be the answer ,
B has never been a snorer so we were lucky but my BIL could outdo Concord with his snoring ,
The amount of times my sister has slept on the sofa when they were young if they had a spare room I think she would have chose that .

If I cant sleep and my restless legs are playing up I have gone into the spare room during the night but couldn't personally do it all the time I need to feel him next to me , that's why I don't sleep at all when he's in Hospital
Our friends have just bought single beds but still in the same room
Each to there own I suppose

[Nanto2girls]

I'm with you Gem. Hubby snores,but i wouldn't dream of having separate rooms.
In laws have separate rooms, because one was always disturbing the other.
If one couldn't sleep,they would put the lamp on to read,waking the other up.

[Daisy]

I agree, Gem. When OH was ill recently he moved into the spare room for a few nights, and it was very, very odd not having him there. If he's away for any reason that's different, but knowing he was in the house but sleeping somewhere else was strange. He's normally a restless sleeper and a snorer anyway, but we have a king size bed and a memory foam mattress, so his tossing and turning doesn't leave me feeling sea sick!

[Glammanana]

Ha-ha I had to laugh at this as we only have the one bedroom in my lovely bungalow (do you know it is 12mths since we got it) but seriously if there was a problem with sleeping when we had extra bedrooms we would have used them.
When John worked 12hr nights and the children where small he used to sleep in the spare room when he came in at 6am as more often than not a little person was in bed with me but apart from that we have always shared the double bed even though he is a snorer.

[Qwerty]

Well I do kick him out on several occasions when his snoring is very shall we say intense !!!! So always glad of the spare room 🙂

[Gemini]

A spare room with bed made up is very useful! OH has moved to it twice I think, due to my snoring! I have gone in there a few times when I have had a cough, rather than keep us both awake.

[Avo]

We both snore sometimes! We wouldn’t dream of not sharing the same bed. Even when one of us is poorly we still like to be close, we have a king size so there is plenty of room is one of us gets fidgety!

[Daisy]

Avo - I know exactly what you mean. This is the first time either of us has been so poorly that the other person would have had no sleep at all - and I think OH realised he needed to be looked after, which meant I needed to get at least some sleep. As it was I was getting up several times a night just to check on him.

[Plantaholic]

I only ever took to the spare bed when I had a very bad chesty cough.

[WeeGranny]

I used to take to the spare room when OH snored badly, but since he's stopped drinking, that happens very rarely now.
I got used to sleeping on my own when he worked abroad and I quite resented the fact that I had to share a bed again. But now we have a superking and you wouldn't know he was there half the time!
I think younger couples seem to like having their own space these days.

[Nana]

Since I've put on weight I'm the one that snores. He wears ear plugs because I'm so loud. When I apologise he just laughs & says I'm getting my own back for the years he snored & kept me awake. He has sleep apnea so wears a mask.

So as not to scare oldest GS, who is a Star Wars fan, he joked with him saying, "E I am your father'. They were in fits. A twist on a line from the film for anyone who doesn't know.😉😁

[Plantaholic]

My DS has sleep apnea Nana

[Qwerty]

He who shall be worshipped was in the spare room last night 😴😴😴😴😴😡😡😡😡😡