How to Slow Him Down

[Glammanana]

My hubby for the past 3 weeks has suffered terribly with this horrible virus that has been doing the rounds,he has had such a bad cough and felt so unwel he hasn't even been for his regular chat with his 2 pals their local so he must have felt awful.
Imagine my horror when this morning he says he feels 100% better and is going to fix shelving into the wardrobe space in the bedroom and all his tools are brought in from said "man shed".
I have told him to take it easy and he just laughed it off but I am worried he will over exert himself and end up being poorly again,do any of you ever have this problem with the men in your life believing they can do stuff when in actual fact I would rather have someone in to do the job he just doesn't realise how old he is (not saying he is past it) I am now having to put up with him banging and drilling whilst he gets on with the job I just wish he would slow down and not try to prove the fact that he is capable of doing the work.

[Oma]

Oh all the time Glamm , Him indoors thinks he's still capable of doing stuff he did 10 years ago ,
I have found its best to let him get on with it then he realises after a while he cant manage ,

Trouble is when they feel well they think they are super human but then the next day they are wiped out again and its us that suffer for it ,
Why cant they see it takes more than 1 day of feeling good to actually be good

[Gemini]

Oh Glamma, it's a hard one! We can't really stop grown adults from doing what they want to, even though we are often right to want to!
I worried that my OH would overdo it too soon, after this virus with either DIY or golf, as she is not much of a sitting around person. However she listened to me for once, and did she admitted, not even feel up to doing anything much. She even completed a 1000 piece jigsaw over a couple of days!

All I think you can do is keep an eye on him, encourage him to take regular breaks for a cuppa, and gently remind him that doing too much to soon can set you back to square one.

My ex husband, bless him would not have overdone it too soon, but felt sorry for himself, a true Man Flu man

[Qwerty]

I have the same Glam I just let him get on with it he’s a poor patient , thinks if he’s doing stuff he thinks he’s better, .leave him to it not much you can do about it , apart from tying him down !

[Mimi]

Gam it’s the same here with my OH. He thinks he is still 20 then is surprised at the end of the day when he is tired and every part of him aches .

[WeeGranny]

I'd appreciate any tips on how to get my OH moving!!!!He's always been good at putting things off, but it's getting beyond a joke now and he's driving me round the bend!

[Qwerty]

A firework up the proverbial WG 💥

[Nanto2girls]

Glamma, not really much you can do, apart from letting him get on with it.
Eventually he mar realise he can't do it as much.

[Daisy]

I'd appreciate any tips on how to get my OH moving!!!!He's always been good at putting things off, but it's getting beyond a joke now and he's driving me round the bend!

WG - I think you could send him round to any one of our OHs - they'll get him working away on their latest project!

Glamm - I sympathise. My OH is just like yours and all the others (except WG's and Gem's ex). But this latest lurgy has really knocked him out and he hasn't even been out in the evening for about 4 or 5 weeks until tonight. He's gone to the Wood Turning Club monthly bash. He hasn't done anything strenuous yet and I think he's realised he's been quite ill. We're having a battle about decorating the hall, stairs and landing. He wants to do it himself but it's a big job and I think we should be someone in. Just before Christmas he agreed and started ringing round for quotes. He couldn't understand why nobody seemed interested in coming over to see the job - the week before Christmas when any decorator worth his hire would be getting jobs finished for Christmas. I'll give him another week or so, and then try again.

He's never learned how to pace himself and is used to working late into the night. But of course he can't so easily do that now - he's 72. He just doesn't realise.

So Glamm, I don't think there's much you can do except give him regular tea breaks and dig out the earplugs. xx

[Glammanana]

Daisy it looks as though I am going to be defeated on this one as to-day he has decided that we need to decorate the bedroom after the recent burst we had,luckily I only have one feature wall in there and the other walls are plain and just need a colour.
I will make him wait a while though and have told him I have no time to choose paper until the middle of next week at the earliest so he will have to rest a while before he begins again.

[Daisy]

Oh dear, Glamm. It looks as though you will have to resort to low cunning. It could take you a while to decide colours and what to do with the feature wall. Wallpaper might need ordering. I think delaying tactics are your friend here. As Gem says, it's hard to persuade someone to do (or not do, in your OH's case) something, but he probably doesn't realise how poorly he's been.

Good luck!

[Shemadee]

I am hoping my OH had the wake up call he needed. His mania is climbing on the shed roof to cut back the laurel and greenery at the end of the garden. I have threatened to confiscate his ladder but he doesn’t take any notice.

Last week when we were in Tenerife he slipped over on a slope in the pouring rain. He really whacked his back, shoulder, eyebrow and knee. The second week of the holiday was spent rubbing in pain relief gel and hobbling about the town. My left knee became very painful (for no apparent reason) so we made a good pair!

I am hoping this has made him realise that he is not made of rubber and he definitely won’t bounce back if he falls off, or through, the shed roof. At least the damp and nasty weather is keeping him indoors!

[Gemini]

Oh dear! Stay on the ground Mr Shemadee!!

[Daisy]

Shem - your poor OH he must be feeling very sore. Please, please tell him to stop climbing that ladder. We have a good friend who fell off and the consequences were terrible - I won't go into details - but they really were life-changing. It's just not worth the risk.

I hope your knee is better. You can do without aching knees in Tenerife - I seem to remember it's hilly.

[Plantaholic]

Your OH is like Oma's B, he climbs up ladders