So Sad for my Grandson.

[Glammanana]

This afternoon my eldest DGS came to visit quite unexpectedly but while he was here he set up my new printer for me,he has been going to do it for about 6 months but hey-ho it is now up and running I have just got to remember the sequence of operation !!
Whilst he was here he told me that his younger brother (by 11mths) has split up with his GF these are the parents of my little GGD who is one year old in March,they are both living in the same house but from to-day all will be changed into her name,I worry for my DGS2 as he is very hands on with this baby and does more than most daddies that I have known.I just don't know how to approach him because he will swear to me that he is alright and that there is no problem when I know he is breaking up inside,my poor DD doesn't want to say anything in case we have the childs mum upset more than she is,her family are giving our boy a really hard time at the moment and she is doing nothing to stop it,she should be telling them to stand back and let them work it out for themselves,I am convinced it is purely all the conflict between all the step-grandparents which has brought things to a head they all seem to be trying to out-do each other regarding the baby and who has her and who doesn't so DD and I are just standing back and letting things flow and pick up the pieces when we we have to,I am so so upset about it but trying hard not to show it too much to OH as he will be cross with me not in a bad way but he is very concerned with the other things going on at present with work and the stupid problem with my broken shoulder (yes that is still on going) Thanks for listening ladies I am now off to wash my hair and try and soak the troubles away with some bubbles.xxx

[Grauntie Mag]

Oh b***er Glam, you must be devastated. You do right though to stand back. Why oh why do families interfere? It just makes the problem worse, it seems. I hope all is soon sorted. You can't help but worry. Try soaking your inner self with something nice too. 😉

[Glammanana]

That posh bottle of Carlos 1 Brandy is looking more inviting by the minute Grauntie but I'll cope with a nice hot chocolate me thinks.

[Shemadee]

A friend of mine had parents and in-laws constantly trying to out do each other and, I always felt, had a lot to do with their subsequent divorce. Such a shame not to enjoy the little ones and try to ensure they feel safe and secure. Hope they manage to sort things out despite the interference.

[Oma]

Sadly there is not one thing you can do Glam , no matter how much you want to , it's all so sad you just want everyone to be happy don't you , xxxx

[Daisy]

Why, oh why don't some people realise that love should multiply, the more people you love the stronger your love is - it shouldn't divide, but sadly is seems as though those step-grandparents don't see it that way. Glamm, my heart goes out to you and your DD - as well of course as your grandson and great grand daughter. xx

[Gemini]

Oh that is sad news Glamma. Nothing you can do, but it doesn't stop you worrying or being sad for your poor grandson xx

[Plantaholic]

That is sad news what good will it do if they split up, do hope they keep together. I know how you feel Glamm, my GS keeps falling for the wrong type.

[Glammanana]

I have been trying to think things over and have come to the conclusion that space on their own would do wonders for them both,the childs mum has had a funny upbringing with her mum having had 3 OHs and is now on No 4 so in my mind she has not been brought up with any kind of commitment to a relationship (if that makes sense) DGS2 can't manage all the demands from all the different "step parents" he is such a hard working boy who holds down a really good job so they have no financial worries as such its just so sad to see him this way.He is possibly moving back in with his mum or going to share with his elder brother I shall find out later to-day.Thanks for your responses ladies I really needed to share this with someone.

[Gemini]

Talk to us any time Glamma xx

[Clover]

What a horrible situation Glam. I' m so sorry for all your worry. It seems to be a case of"too many cooks". Your DGS sounds like a lovely young man.

[ZIZI]

My family is full of step parents. My grandchildren have maternal grandparents (together) and paternal grandparents who have remarried. Husband and I have been together for over thirty years and have taken the view that we do not do "step" . We stand back, we do not offer opinions unless we are asked, we do not turn up without prior appointment, we stay in touch via phone (although when we phone them they don't usually answer but when they phone us it is a tragedy if we don't answer despite both working full time but this is usually because they want something like babysitting or flight booking.

Our eldest is married to a very volatile lady whose parents are extremely well off and think their two girls and grandchildren can do no wrong. They frequently get involved in spats between him and his wife and, yes, frequently make thjngs much worse.

I hope things work out for your family but it is a worry isn't it?

[Nanto2girls]

Sorry i haven't replied sooner Glamma, only just seen this.
Sadly,not much anyone can do,but be there to pick up the pieces.XX

[Glammanana]

Thanks ladies for all you replies it is good to share sometimes men (OH) just don't understand how we need to talk about problems like this do they?

[Daisy]

Glamm - I've been thinking about your grandson and the baby. How are they? It's so sad to see couples break up like that, especially when you can see where the problems lie. xxx