Future new DIL.

[Glammanana]

As you all know future DIL is very hard work however much I try and be non judgemental she does just go out of her way to wind me up,the latest is about her "hen night" this is the UK one (she is also having one in Las Vegas) which will cost me & DD about £200s UK money to attend !!
The phone goes when I had just arrived home from work and who should be on the other end but herself,she was first ranting and raving that I am not in instagram so she could have messaged me rather than ring the house phone (well I'm very sorry about that I'm sure) straight into "are you available on 16th April Charlotte" I am having my hen party and everyone is going dressed in burlesque costumes as they are going to a burlesque club after a meal in Liverpool so you will have to buy an outfit if you want to come,smiling to my self and knowing it is killing her inviting me & DD (she probably has been instructed by my DS1) I calmly state that this kind of night out is surely for the younger ladies and her friends and would she mind if I politely declined,well she could not have said "No I don't mind one bit and will not be offended" any quicker and the sound of relief in her voice would have been deafening Can you really imagine me tottering about Liverpool all done up in red & black I could seriously damage my image,it will be bad enough on the wedding bus she has booked in LV for the hen night there with pole dancing poles situated in the bus for clients to use,at least in LV no one will know me if she wants us dressed up,I have just bought a t-shirt with "The Mother of the Groom" on so I shall be wearing that I'm afraid. What a nightmare 3 months we are going to have in the run up to this wedding.I'll need a holiday when I come back to get over it.

[Gemini]

You are a beautiful lady Glamma, and I'm sure you would look as good as anyone if you wanted to dress burlesque!

Like you I can scarcely think of anything I would less like to do, at our age, or any age!!

You are certainly much better off avoiding this occasion

[Avo]

Can't think of a worse way to spend an evening - best left to the young ones! (Although I can't imagine my young ones wanting to do it either!!)

[ZIZI]

My dils had their "hen nights" abroad. None of the mothers were invited and Ben's nanny (who is bonkers) said she was really rather glad that she didn't have to make an excuse. We did all go out for dinner a week before the occasions and that was enough for us!

[Oma]

I went to my DD,s with her future MIL and we had a great time but this was 17 yrs ago and it was quite tame compared to what goes on now , our DIL,s we went to a drag club it was hysterical but no one had to dress up for either . DIL had another one a weekend away with her friends so neither mother had to endure that . Glam you can tell when they only inviting you because they have too not that they really want you to go but I bet some time in the future she will throw it back saying you never even went to her hen party although she didn't want you too 😡

[Glammanana]

Thanks for the kind replies,OH and I where devastated this afternoon as we have just learned that DS1 had his Stag night last night with his friends and future DILs step father & her dad and not even a phone call to his dad inviting him even for a drink before they went on to clubs,how I wish now that I hadn't paid for LV before xmas I would tell them both to take us off the guest list,but that would be playing into her hands,I feel so so upset for my lovely hubby,I am going to find it very hard to keep my thoughts to myself but I will though.

[ZIZI]

Oh dear Glam how very unkind. My opinion is to hold your head high, get through it all and come home. No point in fighting about it or saying anything. xx

[Gemini]

Glamma, that's not at all nice. No wonder you feel for your poor hubby (HUGS)

[Oma]

Very much like our scenario with DIL and my son Glam , you get hurt but at the end of the day they don't care

[Daisy]

Glam - that's such a kick in the teeth for your OH. I know how my OH would feel if his son hadn't invited him to his stag night. As you say, I'm sure DIL-to-be has influenced that situation!

I went to DIL1's hen do, as did her own mum and her step mum. We didn't have to do any seriously embarrassing dressing up - just silly wigs. We went up to the West End to see Priscilla Queen of the Desert, followed by a bit of a pub crawl and an excellent Chinese. My other DS and DIL didn't have a hen or stag do, but we had a party the night before the wedding for my OH's 60th birthday.

[Plantaholic]

That is very hurtful for you OH Glamm, I would certainly mention it to your DS next time you see him. Why is the hen night being held abroad? has she got family there.

[Nanto2girls]

Oh Glam, I can imagine how your hubby felt, cos I know how mine would have felt in the same situation. As for the hen night in Liverpool, that wouldn't be my cup of tea at all.
You will get through the wedding ok,because you are the better person.

[Glammanana]

Plant the hen night in Las Vegas is for the people who are going there for the wedding I just don't understand the reasoning in the whole thing myself,two stag nights and two hen nights which entails such a lot of extra expense,we are just going to go and enjoy the experience and treat the wedding as an added bonus to our trip,mind you with what it is costing we could have had 5 holidays and still come back with cash to spare I just do not know who she is trying to impress,I am keeping my own council on the whole thing from now on as things may be said which can't be taken back.

[Gemini]

Very wise, Glamma xx

[Shemadee]

How mean spirited not to invite your OH when they invited the in-laws! Perhaps they assumed he wouldn't want to go but so wrong not to even mention it!

I didn't go to either DDs hen dos. One in Barcelona and one in a large country house with jacuzzi etc. I was still dealing with health issues so had a good reason not to go. Just seemed to be them and their closest friends which is fine by me and by them. Every celebration now seems to be stretched to the limits and go on for weeks if not months! The days of a pub crawl in your hometown are long gone!