Feeling guilty

[Oma]

This morning my Brother rang to say a Aunt had died she was 87 , i was shocked and felt a bit guilty , not that she had died but that i thought she was already dead i havent seen this Aunt in about 30 yrs she lived at the other end of the country so she was a stranger to me really , but poor woman in my head i have had her dead for years . I rang my older sister and she thought she was dead too so i dont feel as bad now , i think i may check up on the status of other old relations now to make sure they are either still with us or gone

[Nanto2girls]

You didn't know that she hadn't died sooner,stop feeling guilty. I once sent a Christmas card to one of my Aunties, not knowing she had died about 8 months before.

[Bizzy Lizzy]

My Father has a brother that is a lot older but has outlived him. I always sent him and his wife a Christmas card every year and they sent one to us. I heard nothing after the last Christmas card sent so decided to phone them. He is in his 90s and his wife is 99 When I phoned it took me sometime to get him to recognise who I was. I mentioned the Christmas card sent and he said, "Oh yes we got that but couldn't remember who you were at the time." Don't feel bad Oma.

[Oma]

But can you imagine if i came across one of my cousins and started talking about their mother like she was already dead Not that i have seen them for years either but you never know do you

[Gemini]

You need to check everyone else's dead or alive statuses Oma

[Nanto2girls]

Can just imagine Oma ringing someone, and saying are you dead or alive.

[Oma]

Hahahaha would get a shock if they answered and said no im dead

[Nanto2girls]

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[Mimi]

Oma stop beating yourself up about something like this, after all you have been preoccupied with other things in your life .

[Elisi]

Yes, don't fret Oma, I did the same recently. My father had a sister who was in her 90's and living near York, and the last time I visited was 8 years ago. We sent Christmas cards and spoke on the phone once a year and that was it, until this January I got the card I sent to her returned to me.

Luckily I had the email of one of her sons, my cousin Jeremy, in OZ so I contacted him to be blithely told Peggy had passed away nearly a year back!

Oh, Jeremy, thanks for telling me ....................NOT

[Oma]

Well I'm glad it's not just me 😊 if we had been on closer terms like Christmas cards etc I would have felt worse but as I say we were strangers really even my oldest sister who is 70 in September said she would have been hard pushed to recognise her if she passed her in the street

[Daisy]

Reading this thread and thinking - if I get any unusual phone calls from distant (younger) relatives I'll know what they are thinking and are just checking up whether to cross me off their Christmas card list! lol

[Nana]

Why am I reading your post & giggling Oma? This is the second post I've read this evening & found funny, when perhaps it aught not to.😜

[Gemini]

Mamar*, a giggle does us good