How long do you persevere?

[Nana]

He was Plant. I just don't understand it.

[Bizzy Lizzy]

I know from a friend who's SiL is a GP that they are under a great deal of stress but the way you were treated was totally appalling. I hope there are other doctors in the practice that you can switch to. I cannot imagine any GP treating a patient in this way and it goes against everything they are taught to do. I know you probably feel totally crushed at the moment but a letter to the practice manager at least and reporting him to someone senior also. Does he own the practise or just work there I wonder. GP's are supposed to have compassion and they are also supposed to know the difference between depression and normal human sadness, the latter being a result of bad events and which is perfectly normal. This sounds like a rant but I am so angry that someone who is poorly could be treated in this way.

[Shemadee]

Nana, I would suggest you speak to the Practice Manager with a view to making a formal complaint. Hopefully they will want to avoid this and will take steps to try and sort the matter out. Sounds as if he got frustrated and bad tempered because you didn't back down but this is totally unacceptable. What you are asking for is perfectly reasonable but he seems to have taken his frustration out on you. If he is prepared to accept that he was in the wrong and apologise (though that might be pushing it with a doctor!!) would you feel able to accept this? Not 100% sure if I could but if he has been a reasonable GP until this incident it might be hard to find another.

The only thing I regret it is not speaking up in the early days of my diagnosis. I knew the doctor was useless but my GP wouldn't listen and told me he was the only specialist in the country (totally incorrect I later found) and because of him I still have severe nerve pain and ongoing problems. I do speak up now and it is amazing how far you can get by doing this in an assertive and confident manner. In and ideal world you shouldn't have to battle for the correct care when you feel least like it but seems to be a fact of life nowadays.

[Nanto2girls]

Nana, the way your GP acted towards you was terrible. Good that you had OH with you as back up. Nana and Glamma, hope you both get treated soon and can be well again.

[Nana]

Thank you all again. I'm feeling shattered & upset ... off to bed. I'll come back to this tomoro when my head's a bit clearer. You're a great bunch of friends.xxx

[Gemini]

That was an awful way to treat you Nana. Good advice from Shemadee xx

[Daisy]

Nana - I've only just seen your post from yesterday, but i agree, your GP was right out of order in speaking to you like that. I'd definitely complain, politely and calmly to the Practice Manager. Whatever the outcome though, if you don't feel comfortable with him any more ask to be referred to another GP in the practice. Thank goodness your OH was their to support you - and to verify what happened.

I remember when one of my nieces was quite young she had a very bad chest, and as she is also asthmatic, her mum was really worried. The GP brushed off my SIL's concerns as being a 'fussy older mother' and SIL went home still worried and niece no better. Later that day my niece was more poorly and SIL went back to the GP who immediately hospitalised H. My SIL was really upset because she so nearly didn't go back to the GP because he'd been so arrogant - and after thinking about it for a few days SIL went back to the GP and told him that he had intimidated her to the extent that she had been scared to take her DD back and the asthma attack could have been fatal. He did apologise, but she changed doctors anyway.

Shem - did anyone ever apologise to you for what you were put through and are still suffering from?

[Nana]

Daisy, I'd be interested to know how Shem got on too. It's a good job your niece was looked after properly in the end. The truth is is that it shouldn't have been like that for her in the first place tho'. I'm still in limbo with my Dr, but hey ho.

[Daisy]

Nana - did you complain about the GP's treatment of you? I agree GPs are under huge pressures at the moment, but being ill and having no prospect of a diagnosis isn't a walk in the park, either.

[Nana]

Thanks Daisy. I spoke with my neighbour the other week & she said that the surgery in the village is waiting for a female dr starting soon. The practice I belong to is a half hr bus ride, so it would reduce travelling time. I feel as though I have enough on my plate just now to put any effort into it. I'm so very tired. Thanks for asking tho'. Heaven forbid if I need a dr.