Neighbours

[Qwerty]

Well you know I am not happy with the renters next door, on my way home from the hairdressers there was an ambulance outside their house, when I went into our house mentioned it to OH seems it had been there an hour, finally the wife and DD came out dont know who was ill but they walked into the ambulance and OH followed in his car. About an hr later he was back thought maybe someone had been admitted, this morning about 6 ish heard voices outside and it was the ambulance again. and 2 police cars, off they all went again , this afternoon I noticed the front door was damaged , looks like it had been kicked but I don’t know for sure , his car is back but don’t know anymore , she may have like Omas neighbours mental health issues I have seen her twice in 8 mths she doesn’t go out the door . Doesn’t make easy living here though after 40 yrs of no trouble , it has made us very wary of next door. OH want us to buy s holiday Home and b****r off abroad , makes for unpleasant living here .

[Libra Gran]

I can imagine Qwerty,when I was having problems with my neighbours it was awful.But thankfully things quietened down,can't blame your hubby for thinking of moving away.

[Gemini]

It's horrible when you have problem neighbours Qwerty. It has only happened to me once but it really got me down at the time.

You need to move, I know you have wanted to for a while.

[Oma]

Its a awful time , we lived for 3 years next door to a women in need house that the local woman's refuse bought when my old neighbour sold up and moved , 3 years of torture they kept putting young girls in who within weeks moved their boyfriends in . One was a Alcoholic who smashed the house up every night , two others had drug rave parties every night , we were near having breakdowns .
My Neighbour has been ok for a few weeks now but she's very quiet so apart from having episodes she is no bother .

Its no wonder J wants to buy a holiday home xx

[Enfys]

Oh dear Qwerty, sounds awful. I can understand your OH wanting to move away, are you still looking for a bungalow? That would be the answer if you could find what you are looking for. Hope the situation calms down.

[Nana]

Sorry to hear this Qwerty. I hope things improve for you soon. X

[Nanto2girls]

We've been very fortunate with neighbours, and we've lived here nearly 49 years.
A few years ago, next door neighbours moved out into a council bungalow.
As next door still belongs to the council, we wondered what kind of neighbours we would get.
They turned out to be ok, thank goodness.

[Daisy]

Qwerty - I think difficult (or just downright horrible) neighbours make you feel on edge all the time because you don't know what's going to happen next. It sounds as though whatever is going on they're reaching some kind of crisis. If they become a problem to the landlord they'll probably get evicted anyway! It's not something you would wish on anybody but you and OH don't need the worry and hassle of all that.

[Qwerty]

Thanks ladies , the landlord is the niece of my friend who lost her husband beginning of February so visits very often , she doesn’t see the problems and my friend doesn’t even though she lives opposite , Enfys we do want a bungalow but are getting to a stage where a 2 bedroomed house as long as it’s got a downstairs loo would do us , but there aren’t that many around. To be honest I would get an apartment but OH likes his Garden and we need a garage , what does worry me is if ours goes up for sale and we get folk coming to look will next door put them off, the garden is full of broken toys, shoes left outside in the rain , xmas lights on in the window garden overgrown, curtains hanging off the poles closed all day it’s a 2 bedroom house and they have 3 children one sleeps in the bathroom of which there are 2 . I would think twice before buying myself

[Gemini]

The landlord should do something abut those things Qwerty. We would if it was our tenants. As a landlord you have responsibilty towards your neighbours, I think.

[Gemini]

Also, you have to think of the positives too. A lovely well maintained house like yours, open aspect, the neighbours are only one consideration to buyers.

[Qwerty]

Oma I don’t know if you can demand they tidy toys, shoes etc or tell them how to hang curtains , there is only so much you can complain about I don’t think she’s seen the door yet it’s behind a wall from the road and a car stood in front of it, they are paying rent even though I believe it’s paid by the social as no one works I agree Gem it is a beautiful house but it would be something I would look at myself if buying a house ,what the neighbours are like , OH is looking at villas in Spain to buy 😱

[Plantaholic]

Would you really consider moving that far from your GC Qwerty, they are a big part of your life and there is no telling what neighbours you would have there, they are not confined to the UK.

[Daisy]

Qwerty - neighbours are a big lottery anyway. You can move into a house with perfect neighbours and then they can all move and be replaced by antisocial, noisy, nocturnal pests who use the garden as a dustbin. But I would imagine that there is a clause in the tenancy agreement saying that they have to keep the place tidy etc. It's not great timing with your neighbour/friend having just lost her husband, but when the time's right, you could ask her if she would have a word with her niece, as their landlord, to at least tidy the front garden. If they're social tenants they would also require them to tidy up. The main thing is you don't have a disagreement with them, as you have to declare that you have no disputes with the neighbours.

I agree with Gem, that your home is its own best advert.

[Qwerty]

Plant I don’t want to leave my gorgeous children nor grandchildren this would be a seasonal thing and maybe an apartment in Leeds , I do believe something will turn up housewise it’s just OH getting himself in a state and you know he suffers with nerves this isn’t helping , he’s a very proud man always doing something in the house it’s just getting him down which then gets me down , we could do to live in a the middle of a damned field !