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    Does 'getting it off your chest" do any good?

    If this is done assertively and not aggressively it can be very cathartic for some people perhaps?

    Do you bottle things up and fret about them? Or do you face problems as they arrive? Then do you explode, or withdraw?

    Is this all just how different personality types act?
    Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. T.S Eliot

    #2
    There are occasions where I will actively and very vocally rant but only when I am on my own, sometimes when husband is here but not often.

    I do sometimes worry to myself but don't think that is bottling it up, it is thinking about things and taking time to consider and usually will then speak to husband. If it has been something really worrying I will cry a bit to myself. To be honest if I am that concerned about anything I start by writing it down.
    If you want to go fast go alone, if you want to go far go together

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      #3
      Depends what it is that is upsetting me , I don't think I bottle anything up . I tend to talk to hubby about everything he will give his opinion and I mull it over .I can explode if provoked though . Very rare for me to cry over something like a argument unless it's someone I really care about and hate upsetting them . I do rant in my head mind you 😀
      Im not fat just 6ft too small

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        #4
        Oma I rarely cry over a tiff or an argument. It is usually because I am frustrated that I cannot change things or someone I am talking to is resistant to listening to advice when they have elected to be there for that very thing. This is usually to do with work and I shouldn't allow myself to get so involved but unfortunately there are times when I do......
        If you want to go fast go alone, if you want to go far go together

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          #5
          I must bottle things up I guess I hate confrontation people can and have hurt me and I just think I don't want to be that kind of person. Having said that if massiveley riled I can lose it big time.😡 but takes sometime to get me to that state .

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            #6
            I think I'm a bit of a mixture. Mostly I stay very calm (at least on the outside) but other times I'd win first prize in a National Rant competition.

            "Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognise how good things really are. "

            (Marianne Williamson)

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              #7
              I only rant to myself, I don't like confrontation
              What is life if full of care we have no time to stand and stare

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                #8
                I don't like confrontation so do tend to bottle things up then rant to myself, or poor DH, later. Sometimes I can keep calm and put my point across but I do tend to have a hot temper and can lose it sometimes, not proud of that by the way . So tend to button my lip and count to ten...or a hundred!
                "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." - Dr Seuss

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                  #9
                  I have mellowed as I have become older , when I was younger I had a fiery temper and could explode . Now I think is it worth the hassle and the Drama . I won't be bullied or intimidated and arguments solve very little , that's not to say I don't argue but I choose now , unlike when I was young I would go in with both barrels regardless. I hate upsetting anyone and try to avoid it if I can . I have some wonderful rants inside my head at times 😁
                  Im not fat just 6ft too small

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by Oma View Post
                    I have mellowed as I have become older , when I was younger I had a fiery temper and could explode . Now I think is it worth the hassle and the Drama . I won't be bullied or intimidated and arguments solve very little , that's not to say I don't argue but I choose now , unlike when I was young I would go in with both barrels regardless. I hate upsetting anyone and try to avoid it if I can . I have some wonderful rants inside my head at times 😁
                    Well you can fight my battles anytime Mrs 😳

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                      #11
                      I used to be quite fiery and I didn't always stop and think , but now as I'm older I realise that most things are not worth getting wound up about.
                      Saying that I'm usually the first to speak out if I think it's important.
                      One example , I was on a very overcrowded, hot bus that had been stuck in traffic for almost half an hour. One ( very selfish) women made her way to the driver, flirted with him for a few mins and then announced that she was going to lite a cigarette as she was 'gasping for a fag' and the driver said it was Ok.
                      There was lots of mumbles of disapproval, but all out of hear shot of the smoker.
                      Big mouth here ( me) said in a very loud voice.
                      "Don't you dare lite up, it states quite clearly for those of us who can read that no smoking is not aloud on this bus. If you are unable to read the notice I will gladly read it to you , and the bus driver to as he seems either to have forgotten the rules on smoking in public, or perhaps he also cannot read. "
                      She pulled a face at me and put her cigarette away. The driver didn't say a word .
                      Bring me sunshine in your smile.

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                        #12
                        I am mostly quite easy going and it is a long while since my Irish temper came to the fore but it could be quite spectacular especially when I saw some kind of injustice! I am better at speaking up for others than for myself. I will complain politely about bad service or goods now which I probably wouldn't have done when younger.
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                          #13
                          Oh I will speak out if I see anyone being unkind to someone , can't stand that . I have been known to say loudly a thank you would be nice if take for instance my grandson holds the door for someone and they just walk in and don't acknowledge it , surprisingly it's usually the elderly that do that , those that should know better
                          Im not fat just 6ft too small

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                            #14
                            I've mellowed as well since I got older. Sometimes I have to get things off my chest, otherwise it will niggle away at me.

                            maybe there is some truth in the saying a trouble shared is a trouble halved.
                            Sometimes I forget to like posts,but that doesn't mean I don't like them.

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                              #15
                              Mimi - good for you for speaking up. Silly woman!

                              It made me smile though. We used to have a family-owned supermarket in our village (sadly now Tesco Express) and the car park ran down the side of the building for access and the parking spaces on the left at right angles. On the side of the building was a notice which said "Parking against this wall is reserved for inconsiderate drivers". I never, ever saw anybody park against that wall!

                              "Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognise how good things really are. "

                              (Marianne Williamson)

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