Difficult patients

[Oma]

Yesterday when we visited MIL the lady opposite in the middle bed is not very friendly ,
Anyway they came around with lunch ,
She had soup, the lady in the next bed right opposite is a lovely old lady but can't do much for herself ,
The very nice Indian nurse who is always cheerful and helpful was feeding this lady ,

Then the not so nice lady decided she wanted feeding ,

The nurse said you can feed yourself but if your struggling I will get to you after I have fed this lady,

Well all hall broke loose, she started screaming feed me now you pakki Ba****d then with great force she threw the soup bowl and soup towards the nurse ,
There was soup and broken bowl everywhere,
She then poured her pudding and custard all over the bed ,

The visitor in the next bed shouted at her and told her she had a dirty mouth,
and everyone told her to stop it ,
B said if you can throw that bowl you can feed yourself ,

The nurse said she feeds herself every day and we have seen her,
Anyway they left her in her own muck for about 15 minutes and she kept shouting nurse clean this up it's all over my bed ,
Another visitor said we'll it's your own fault,

Eventually a nurse came in with a fresh bowl of soup and started feeding her
She then decided she didn't want it after all.
The nurse left it on her tray along with a tub of ice-cream and cleared the mess up.
She then proceeded to feed herself the ice-cream.

We all said to the nurse she must have the patience of a saint to put up with that ,
These girls don't get paid enough,

As we were leaving she pushed her trolly towards me and said get rid of that,

I said it's not my job leave it , you don't deserve help.

It opens your eyes doesn't it,
MIL said when her husband comes in she is always shouting at him and punching him,
He has to keep moving away.

I said to the nurse has she got dementia, she said no she's only in there for a chest infection,
So obviously it's her natural nature.
The peace and quiet her husband must be getting while she is in there , he must be loving it.

[Gemini]

Oma I think health care workers of all kinds have a lot to put up with.
Nowadays I notice signs in hospital and Drs surgery saying treat the staff as you wish to be treated, abuse will not be tolerated etc. It should be obvious, but apparently not.

That woman sounds a nasty piece of work. She may have a degree of undiagnosed dementia, but that is unacceptable behaviour.
I agree none of the nurses, carers or health care assistants are paid enough.

[Plantaholic]

What a dreadful environment those young nurses have to work in, enough to put them off for life. I presume some of the patients have dementia and wouldn’t normally be so unkind.

[Daisy]

Oma, I wonder what makes anyone think they are entitled to behave like that, whether to their family or the people who are caring for them.

By any measure they have some sort of mental or personality problem.

The nurses were very patient and tolerant.

[Nanto2girls]

What a nasty lady. In my opinion she doesn't deserve any help with anything.