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    I have a couple of acquaintances (one in my walking group) who are very nosey. Perfectly nice people, but they ask quite intrusive questions and don’t seem to realise that it’s inappropriate or the sort of topic you would only talk about with family or close friends.

    Any ideas how to politely deflect these questions without being rude and saying ‘don’t be nosey’.
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    I only had to do this once with a neighbour Jane ,
    She was really intrusive,
    I just said oh I don't talk about personal things and left it in the air , she stood looking at me for a few seconds then I changed the subject.
    Nice lady but likes to know everyone business.

    It's hard to deal with situations like this without being offensive but sometimes you just have to lay down your cards and say so , not easy though, a very tricky situation.
    Im not fat just 6ft too small
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      #3
      Oh that's awkward isnt it? We always hope and presume other recognise normal boundaries.

      I don't really know how I would deal with this to be honest, apart from avoiding them!
      “A grandchild fills a space in your heart that you never knew was empty.” – Unknown
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        #4
        Sum1, that is difficult. I tend to brush off unwanted questions with something vague like "that was a long time ago" or "I've no idea" and immediately start a different, neutral conversation as a distraction, such as "Oh look at that little bird. What is it ?" or "Those curtains look lovely, don't they". Asking a question yourself is a good diversion, and hopefully sets the other person's mind off in a new direction.
        "Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognise how good things really are. "

        (Marianne Williamson)
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          #5
          I haven’t noticed that problem so perhaps I give too much information in the first place.
          What is life if full of care we have no time to stand and stare

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            #6
            Two good suggestions there Sum. I’m careful about what I say to certain people in a certain group of friends because all of a sudden one can find oneself at death’s door, awaiting a prison sentence or similar due to the ‘Chinese whispers’!😬
            Women are like tea bags; you never know how strong they are until they are put in hot water.
            Eleanor Roosevelt.
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              Grauntie, or someone who has just got the facts wrong. A few years ago I happen to see someone I knew. I knew she had been ill, but she was looking well, and said she had recovered. The very next day, someone said to me "it's such a shame about X isn't it. I hear she hasn't got long." I hope the prophet of doom message never found its way back to the lady in question.
              "Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognise how good things really are. "

              (Marianne Williamson)
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                #8
                It can be tricky. Hubby has a brother like this.
                If he asks something to be nosey,i quickly try to change the subject.
                All the family know what he's like.
                You can't tell him anything without the jungle drums being in action.
                Sometimes I forget to like posts,but that doesn't mean I don't like them.
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