How do you 'Distribute the wealth' amongst your grandchildren or great grandchildren?

[Gemini]

Interesting topic Gem I treat all my grandchildren the same as they are all individual children be it an only one or twins they are treated with same amount of money , after all they didn’t ask to be born , my only guilt feeling is that since my eldest from the age of 3 we have taken her away for a few days to the coast etc, this year now she’s 8 in July we are taking her to London for a week, we feel she’s old enough now to appreciate the trip and we are able to look after her, it’s s bit more difficult with twins, I can manage one but don’t think OH is able to manage the other one should they run off. We pay for everything accommodations and travel daddy sends her pocket money. By the time the twins are old enough for something like London we don’t think we will be able to mange a trip to London OH will be 76 ish and I will be 73 as I feel at the moment I could manage one at that age not sure about 2 but maybe we can make it up in some other ways . I know my DS would understand 😀
Ooohh same amount of money for each one in a bank account each month, but eldest being here first has more money in the bank, you can go on forever trying to justify things 🤔

Qwerty, I also feel guilty about the amount of theatre trips and days out GD had with me pre school compared ,to her cousin. I think my reason are she was my first and only for 3 years, and has always been so very easy to take anywhere. GS has been a different kettle of fish and I often feared taking him anywhere on his own, in case I couldn't manage him. I once took him to Leeds to see play when he was 4, but invited mummy along too, paying for both as I felt I owed him. Well, I will have said at the time I think, but he cried for the last third, in fact loudly wailed, as he sensed it was about to end. Everyone was looking at us. He was a little beast that day and I was so glad DD was there too. So, maybe I shouldn't feel so guilty!
You certainly have nothing to feel guilty about. Twins, and you both being older are not excuses but good reasons!

[Daisy]

Just catching up with this.

I don't think any of us should feel guilty about whatever we give or do for our grandchildren. It sounds as though all of us try to be as fair as we can. Inevitably the older grandchildren will have more because they were born first. But when they grow up, there will come a time when we have to rethink how we give to them, and then the younger ones will still be receiving as usual, while we might change things for the oldest.

OH has a lot of nieces and nephews and we've always given birthday and Christmas presents while they were in full-time education. After that, it's just cards. I've done the same with children of friends.

If I'm still here, I can't imagine not giving my GCs a birthday present, but it will probably be cash!