What a muddle!

[Gemini]

This morning I had a text from SIL1, informing me that GS1 wasn't at preschool. I knew this as term begins tomorrow. The text went on to say that therefore to collect GS from home, where SIL was, with him.
I had a late morning radiotherapy treatment in the town which neither we, nor DD live. No way would I have been able to collect him from preschool at 11.45, had he been there. I said from the start that I would look after the GC when I could throughout my treatments, which are 15 days, but due to the bank holidays, seems to be going on much longer! I also said it would be impractical to have them often over that time, due to the times of the appointments, which vary each day.. I have helped out a bit with GS1, for half days a couple of times. In no way had I offered to do so today however! I texted SIL and said sorry but I wasn't expecting to look after GS today and had this late morning appointment then plans with my mum this afternoon. I then texted DD1 at work to ask if she thought I was looking after GS. She did. To cut a long story short, SIL looked after him.
Oh dear.... not my fault, but of course I feel guilty not having him even so!!

[Qwerty]

Sometimes our grown Up children think we have nothing else to do and appointments can be moved etc, not your problem Gem take care of you . I say many a time because we don't moan much they think all is ok, not that you are moaning lol but it can be a bit miffing

[Oma]

Gem you come first they cannot expect you to have GS1 and take him with you to appointments its just too much , its SIL.s problem if he got mixed up I'm sure he coped don't feel guilty xxxx

[Nanto2girls]

Just goes to show Gem, how we are relied upon for childcare. I know you would have had him willingly, if it wasn't for your appointment.
Your welfare must come first.

[Plantaholic]

That was a muddle Gemini, you mustn't feel it was your fault

[Mimi]

Good heavens Gem, you were going for your radiotherapy session not a manicure , you have had other things on your mind so you mustn't feel guilty about it.

[Gemini]

Thanks everyone.
Mimi,that's what OH and DD2 said, I wasn't exactly neglecting childcare duties to go off on a jolly

[Daisy]

Gem, I think our children rely on us so much and they forget when we tell them about essential changes to the routine. Mine don't even tell me when school holidays or inset days are - I look on the various schools' websites!!!

Definitely not your fault, and definitely no guilt trips. Xx

[Gemini]

I later found out that not only did they think I was coming for GS, but also that he was at preschool that morning!
DD, at work, had a text reminding parents term started the following day. She phoned SIL to tell him not to take GS to preschool. He texted me, the rest you know!
These people are far from idiots - he has a Phd, she has 2 very good degrees. Grandma, who has neither, knew full well that Monday was an inset day.
Forunately one of DDs friends saved the day. She took GS swimming and to the park with her little girl, so SIL was able to work from home as planned that day.

I hope they have learned to double check their childcare now!

[Plantaholic]

Very intellegent people are often on another wavelength Gemini

[Glammanana]

So so true Plant,we all know of very intelligent people family included but when it comes to everyday living they are clueless to say the least.

[Daisy]

I wonder if part of the problem is that our children run their lives (or not, as the case may be!) on their phones. I think it's much easier to miss seeing a date on your phone calendar than an older-fashioned paper one hanging in the kitchen - preferably with cut kittens or puppies on it, and right next to the fridge!

I suppose my life ran in school terms for so long that I still think that way. It still feels strange not getting a new diary in September! I even found myself thinking about this Bank Holiday week-end in terms of 'a day off school/college so close to GCSEs and A Levels is such a bad thing'!