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    Grandson not wanting to grow up

    My grandson, who is just turned 3 and a half, seems anxious about the whole idea of getting any older!
    When he turned 3 he said he wanted to go back to being 2 - but keep his birthday presents

    Most children look forward to being a Big Boy or Girl, and can't wait to reach the next age milestone. It is so bad with GS he doesn't like anyone mentioning food making you grow bigger. DD and I have started saying that food is mainly to give him energy and keep him strong to play, and to stop him being poorly, and that growing goes very slowly.
    He doesn't want to be 4. Yesterday at lunch he looked a little upset, when I asked what was wrong he said T (his cousin) had said he would get bigger and older. She wasn't being mean as she is a kind child, and was just stating a fact.

    It puzzles me a little. If he had a new sibling or one on the way, it would make more sense, as he may fear losing his 'baby' status.

    Has anyone else any experience of this?
    “A grandchild fills a space in your heart that you never knew was empty.” – Unknown

    #2
    Strange one that Gem , has he overheard something not nice about growing older ? Never came across that before
    Im not fat just 6ft too small

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      #3
      Yes strange isn't it. As Oma says he could have heard something to get him thinking this way. He's too young to associate getting older or old with dying.I'm sure it's only a phase but a bit puzzling nevertheless.

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        #4
        He certainly is a deep thinking little boy
        What is life if full of care we have no time to stand and stare

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          #5
          DD2 used to say that she wished she could remain a child forever but was a lot older! GS2 got worried when he started to lose teeth in case other bits of him would start to come off! Hard to get inside their brains and know what starts off their concerns.
          xx

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            #6
            Never come across this before Gem, maybe just a passing phase, or maybe he has heard something somewhere and got the wrong end of the stick.
            Sometimes I forget to like posts,but that doesn't mean I don't like them.

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              #7
              I bet when it's his 4 th birthday and a party is coming up he'll change his mind he's just a sensitive soul I can bond with him I don't want to get old either lol😪

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                #8
                I know what he means. I think. When I was four I didn't want to be five because that is a boys's number. Yes, I know it sounds daft, but I have synaesthesia where numbers have gender, all words have a colour and I can see colours when I hear music.

                I couldn't bear the thought of being a boy so I said I would be four forever - until I was thirteen.

                i remember being told I was stupid by a good number of people and I got to be five anyway.

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                  #9
                  Interesting Sum1.

                  GS is very ' mathematical '. His daddy has a doctorate in maths, and thinks maths is the best fun! GS finds anything to do with numbers easy. He doesn't have to count small groups of items, he can get it just by looking.
                  Whether this has anything to do with this age, thing, I don't know. It could do!
                  “A grandchild fills a space in your heart that you never knew was empty.” – Unknown

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                    #10
                    Gem - it's interesting and puzzling, but I think he could have heard something which he's misinterpreted and you may not find out what it could be for ages. When my DS2 started school he did very well for a time, especially with reading. Then he just seemed to give up and was making no progress. His wonderful teacher tried all sorts of things but eventually he responded to bribery (I thin it was 20p per book he read). Years and years later we were talking about it and he told me what he had been thinking. Around the time he gave up a very close friend's son died of cancer. He was slightly older than DS2, but DS2 had got the thought into his head that because he used to go and visit the little boy he too would die when he got to that age. So there was no point in learning to read etc. We never connected the two events at the time.

                    But then, as Sum has suggested, his mathematical brain may be telling something about getting older.

                    Sum - I've read a little about synaesthesia and it's fascinating. Do you know, say, what colours you will see when you hear a given piece of music, or it is random and changing?
                    "Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognise how good things really are. "

                    (Marianne Williamson)

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                      #11
                      Sum - I've read a little about synaesthesia and it's fascinating. Do you know, say, what colours you will see when you hear a given piece of music, or it is random and changing?

                      Pretty much. At least when I know the piece of music. Bach is purple and gold and I see threads of fabric weaving and knotting. Mozart is orange and yellow, while Stravinsky is white and shades of grey with silver spikes. Music I dislike, such as Puccini, is black treacle.

                      Monday is blueish grey, Tuesday is green while Wednesday is black shading to yellow. I can't explain it, but it's always there. As a child I thought everyone experienced it until I was laughed at so I kept quiet. Then I saw a TV programme where a psychologist spoke about it and I realised that I wasn't so odd after all. It doesn't seem to have any purpose.

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                        #12
                        I think that's true - what/how we see, hear and experience the world is how we assume other people experience it. It does make me smile though that Puccini is black treacle. I hope today (Wednesday) becomes a lovely sunny shade of yellow very quickly. x
                        "Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognise how good things really are. "

                        (Marianne Williamson)

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                          #13
                          He certainly is a deep thinking little boy
                          What is life if full of care we have no time to stand and stare

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                            #14
                            Sum1Ls did your seeing colours for numbers, music and days of the week affect your teaching, such as if you were counting the children and the wrong gender was the fifth child and when you wrote the day on the blackboard did you have to write it in the appropriate colour?
                            What is life if full of care we have no time to stand and stare

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                              #15
                              His beloved teddy bear had a 4th birthday this week, so maybe that's a good sign
                              “A grandchild fills a space in your heart that you never knew was empty.” – Unknown

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